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    how do you start a sexual conversation with your girlfriend who you have never mentioned anything sexual at all? not even genitals, boobs, ass. anything?
    how do you start it without having to sound awkward?

    and i want to talk to her in a public place but only two of us, the setting would be something like a park where its just the two of you...

    ive rubbed her clitoris before in the past about 4 months ago. should i start with that? should i say "remember when we had those great time before, when you were being naughty?" blah blah blah... i just need to know the words to say and how i could initiate it


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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

    Could you let us know the reasoning behind wanting to bring it up?

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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

    just like the fact that she gets excited... brings excitement to a relationship, another topic to talk about other than asking her everyday what she did. how her day went. even i can feel that im getting bored asking her these same questions everyday

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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

    Everybody gets bored asking those questions. They're supposed to lead to bigger conversations about stuff that matters.

    I'm tired right now, so take my bitterness with a grain of salt, but I'm going to go ahead and answer all of your questions (including the ones from the other threads) in a somewhat general way.

    You've been dating her for 6 months now. You say you love her to death. You trust her with all of your most private and intimate secrets. Why are you so unable to just say what's on your mind?

    At this point in a relationship, you really shouldn't need advice on how to talk to your girlfriend. You should, by now, know her extremely well, and certainly better than any of us possible could. I don't know how you should bring up sex with her, since I have no idea what sort of a girl she is, or how she could possibly react. That should be something you know at this point. I don't know if your girlfriend will react well to you pushing her away in order to pull her closer. She could flip and leave you flat on your ass.

    The point is that you need to "man up" a bit and talk to your girlfriend how you want to talk to her. If you bring up something that ought not be brought up, then don't talk about it any further, and take a note of it. You need to be able to feel comfortable saying what's on your mind around her in order for you to be able to be in a strong, successful, loving relationship with her. If she loves you as I assume she does after 6 months, then she'll forgive you for crossing a boundary.

    If you want to talk about sex, or fooling around, or cosplay, or WHATEVER, then just talk to her. You don't need to formulate before-hand how you're going to have a conversation with her verbatim, because you'll sound like a robot. Go out there and talk to her and experience your relationship the way it's meant to be experienced.

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    Don't you have slightly more pressing issues?
    My god! Is this pure ideology? That. Is. Bananas​.

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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

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    Don't you have slightly more pressing issues?
    I'm with Jack here. You might want to deal with your other issues at hand first...

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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

    Truelove,

    My single piece of advice on this matter is -

    ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

    Talking about rubbing her clit is hardly a turn on. Kissing her passionately and building up a big of 'heat' with touching is what works.

    Sheesh, talking your girlfriend into sex? Come on...
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    Default Re: how to start a sexual conversation?

    Quote Originally Posted by And? View Post
    Don't you have slightly more pressing issues?
    I agree with this, after reading your other threads you put, Doing sexual stuff is at the bottem off your list

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