I really need help with my sex life... please?

[Misdermeanerj]

Alrighty. So. About a month and a half ago, me and my boyfriend lost our virginity with each other. It was on a friday night, at a beach. Very romantic. (No. You don't get sand all up there.) He treated me so amazingly. He was such a sweetie about everything. The next day, he came over. We had sex again in the woods. (Not so romantic at all) and Basically, friday was a romantic time. Saturday was just sex. for sex. and pleasure. (We used condoms both times)
Anywho. I told my sister. (I tell her everything) But she became such a ***** about it. And she made me tell my parents. So. I did, cause I don't care, honestly. My dad was cool about it, but my mom was so horrible to me. I'll skip details.
Anywho, about 2 weeks later, I went down to the clinic to get myself on the pill. Me and my boyfriend hadn't done ONE. THING. besides kissing since sex. And we started to argue and fight because we have so much stress. LIST O LIST THE STRESS!
1. My parents know we had sex. They wanna kill him. My dad wants to have the talk with him.
2. School. My grades are falling because we have been fighting so much.
3. Swim team. Me and him are SO into swim. We are so competitive and it's pretty much our future. Having a serious relationship on swim is incredibly hard. And it's affecting our swimming.
4. Friends. They are *******. Honestly, they keep saying 'BREAK UP WITH HIM/HER. BECAUSE YOU GUYS ARE FIGHTING'. Fighting is NORMAL for couples. Especially with all the stress.
5. Family. Not only do my parents know, but the rest of my famfam. My aunt thinks I'm a whore. My sister is a c*nt about it. And If my boyfriend's parents ever find out that we did have sex... His step mom would never let him see me again. She would tell him to break up with me. And his dad... I don't even wanna think about that. God.

Anywho, we hadn't done one thing (ANYTHING) besides kissing. And we started to argue and fight more and more. Then finally, things got better. It was on Wednesday and Thursday that things were just amazing. We didn't fight once. Then some guy was all over me in english. Literally, ALL OVER ME. I didn't like it. So I moved across the hallway (because I was reading a book in the hall) and he followed me. 2 of my boyfriend's friends saw me and told him I was cuddling with him and was all over him. He thought I was cheating and we started fighting. At lunch on Friday, I yelled at him so bad. I almost broke up with him because I am so tired of the drama. He says "We need us time and this drama and fighting needs to stop. We need to not doubt each other" but when he thinks that I AM cheating because some guy was all over me? Thats doubting me.
So I almost said 'It's over' but I couldn't say it. I'm in love with him, and picturing my life without him is so scary. So I just walked off and thought about things.

After all that was solved, we went to a football game last night. We had a great time. Lots of fun. Then when I got home, my parents told me that they were going hunting at dawn until whenever. So this morning, I snuck him over. I finally showed him my room, and we started making out on my bed. We slowly got comfortable, and got under the covers. We (of corse) had sex. Things are going just fine, but I have been thinking ever since he left....
'Was it okay to have sex after all the fighting? Make-up sex? I mean, we haven't done anything in forever. And it was so romantic, today. Not just 'sex for sex'.'

But with all the fighting, was it bad to have sex with him? I feel it was right. And I enjoyed it. Not just the sex, but the time together. Afterwords, we just layed there, and talked. Everything was so perfect. Then he had to run to work. It's still a little nerve wracking though. I mean.. It felt right. I still feel right about it, but I'm just wondering if having sex after all the fighting was a bad decision?

What do you guys think? I really need some advice here.

Terribly sorry this is so long. I really just need help or advice. Any opinion is greatly appreciated

[Curious Strange]

Hmm..well, I'm a virgin, a gay one at that. So my advice probably isn't the best. But in my opinion, the best thing to do is to talk to him about everything on your mind. Pretty much everything you vented to us, redirect towards him. That you feel stressed. That you think it's affecting your schoolwork and swimming. Even that you almost broke up with him, but make sure to include that you didn't because you love him, and you couldn't see yourself without him. Just the talking will probably get a lot of stress off, and maybe some of the things he says back will make you both feel better. I don't know, I'm just kind of typing whatever comes to mind..But since you put so much effort into your post and don't have any reples I guessed I could give my two cents. The best of luck to you and your boyfriend, Janessa.

[Zeus.]

Angry argument sex is the best.

[Luke]

Make up sex is the best. Definately not a bad thing to do, can help "pave over" any problems you have.

And can I say, beach sex, sand definately does get in places it shouldnt be.

[DudeD1020]

Umm well i am also sorta in your situation(switch the genders) but uh my advice is just tell him in as few words as possible, and somehow get one of his freinds to tell him what is on your mind, trust me even if your really tight, there are only three things that are more important in this stage of life, His best bud, Staying alive, and not having sand in his asscrack, wich can be avoided with a towel

[Junky-Kay]

I only have 3 words for you.
FALL IN LOVE.

[hehe]

You say it felt right. It sounds like both you and he enjoyed it. I don't see what could be a problem. Yes, the relationship is shaky, but if the sex fostered some open conversation afterwards and you both had been working to improve things, it's possible that it helped in your case.

[Scoobyfan]

Interesting story, I agree with them ^. I'm a little curious, how old are both of you? It might explain why your parents are angry.