Girlfriend "pretending" that I'm circumcised??

[1139]

Sorry, new here...last post didn't work and I don't know how delete it!




Ok, there's a lot of background on this...just bare with me here people...


So me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months now, and things are going really well. We see each other often, and have lots of fun both in and out of bed. Therein lies the interesting (is that the right word?) part. I think I am a little rare around here where I live, at least from what I have seen, being that I am not circumcised, and have really not thought much about it until now.


Since we have started dating, whenever my girlfriend has to deal with my penis she always pulls the foreskin all the way back. During blowjobs that was really uncomfortable for me for the first while...I really wasn't used to it, and she usually just concentrates on the head. I'm sure she knew I was uncomfortable because I flinched a bit, but that just made her do it more and I didn't want to say anything to make her self-conscious. Handjobs are more or less the same thing. She holds the skin back and either rubs the head dry or she'll rub it with lotion.


Now here is the really strange part: I think I'm really starting to like it. Now when she pulls the skin back, I thrust towards her and she in turn holds back the skin really tight; usually she has a little smile on her face when this happens, like she knows that I like it. To be honest, that really gets me going. I think now it feels a LOT better pulling the skin back and doing it that way than ever before. I have even started jerking off that way every time, and when I try using the skin now I am just not interested.


That led me to do some research...was circumcision really as bad as people made it sound? Is all that sensitivity lost? If what my girlfriend was doing to me felt that mind-blowingly good, there couldn't be anything wrong with it at all. Even if some sensitivity was lost, I'd like to last longer than my usual 8 minutes or so having sex anyway.


If I were to get circumcised, I would tell the doctor to only remove skin from near the base of the shaft. I want to keep all inner foreskin, the ridged band, and the frenulum. I have no problem with the possibility that my glans would dry out from being constantly exposed, I have been wearing my foreskin back for a little while now and have no problem with it.


It would seem that my girlfriend's want for me to get circumcised (or at least feel to her like I am) has convinced me more or less to actually do it.


So what do you think? Should I do it? Girls who have had uncircumcised boyfriends, how did you deal with their foreskin? Is my girlfriend's behavior normal?

[gucciiva]

I'm really not an expert but isn't foreskin supposed to be pulled back for uncircumside guys? Isn't that you do when j/o and have sex?
If you flinced and didn't say anything she maybe tought you like it, so she went even more.
But don't get circumside just because she likes it.
And I'm really not sure could you go to doctor and tell him how to perform operation, like, i would like you to do this and not that....

[Zeus.]

First let me say that whatever you find comfortable and pleasurable... By all means go for it. It sounds to me like your girlfriend never liked you being uncut from the beginning and was trying to make it like you weren't by doing that to the foreskin and to get you to like it. She succeeded. So if you do like it better as a circumsized male then by all means get a circumsicion. It's totally up to you but you have to live with the choice. Oh and 8 minutes stamina period is actually pretty good for someone in our age bracket. So you don't have anything to worry about.

Originally Posted by gucciiva

I'm really not an expert but isn't foreskin supposed to be pulled back for uncircumside guys? Isn't that you do when j/o and have sex?

Not intentionally but it does on it's own account during stimulation. However, it doesn't stay pulled back the whole time. It can be pulled back and retracted dependingon the owner's taste in pleasure.

Originally Posted by gucciiva

But don't get circumsized just because she likes it.
....

Agreed.

[joshskates]

let me put it to you this way, in circumcision you Loose:

• The Foreskin
• The Frenar Ridged Band
• The Foreskin's 'Gliding Action
• Nerve Endings
• The Frenulum
• Muscle Sheath
• The Immunological Defense System
• Lymphatic Vessels
• Oestrogen Receptors
• The Apocrine Glands
• Sebaceous Glands
• Langerhans Cell
• Colouration
• Blood Vessels
• Dorsal Nerves

Penis size- if you remove something from anything it will become smaller. if i take a slice of pie, that pie has now become smaller. if you cut off your foreskin, your penis is effected in the same. also, Nerve endings transmit feelings to the brain, fewer nerve endings means less sensetivity.


Any Questions?

[Zelda]

I removed your duplicate thread.

I imagine a lot of her behaviour comes from not knowing exactly what to do with an uncircumcized penis. Most guys who are circed find their head being directly stimulated to be very pleasuarable. Your sensitivity is something she probably hasn't encountered. If you're getting used to it, thats not bad, but not necessarily reason to go and get circumcized.

[Luke]

Originally Posted by joshskates

let me put it to you this way, in circumcision you Loose:

• The Foreskin
• The Frenar Ridged Band
• The Foreskin's 'Gliding Action
• Nerve Endings
• The Frenulum
• Muscle Sheath
• The Immunological Defense System
• Lymphatic Vessels
• Oestrogen Receptors
• The Apocrine Glands
• Sebaceous Glands
• Langerhans Cell
• Colouration
• Blood Vessels
• Dorsal Nerves

Penis size- if you remove something from anything it will become smaller. if i take a slice of pie, that pie has now become smaller. if you cut off your foreskin, your penis is effected in the same. also, Nerve endings transmit feelings to the brain, fewer nerve endings means less sensetivity.


Any Questions?

You will lose about a centimetre of overhang (varying depending on the foreskin) when flaccid, and nothing if when you have sex the foreskin is right back. It cannot in any way be compared to "taking a slice of pie" as the difference in the two situations is.. different ?

You won't notice a size difference.

[Zeus.]

Originally Posted by joshskates

let me put it to you this way, in circumcision you Loose:

• The Foreskin
• The Frenar Ridged Band
• The Foreskin's 'Gliding Action
• Nerve Endings
• The Frenulum
• Muscle Sheath
• The Immunological Defense System
• Lymphatic Vessels
• Oestrogen Receptors
• The Apocrine Glands
• Sebaceous Glands
• Langerhans Cell
• Colouration
• Blood Vessels
• Dorsal Nerves

Penis size- if you remove something from anything it will become smaller. if i take a slice of pie, that pie has now become smaller. if you cut off your foreskin, your penis is effected in the same. also, Nerve endings transmit feelings to the brain, fewer nerve endings means less sensetivity.


Any Questions?

Yes.... Where do you get your information? You don't lose any size of the penis by getting circ'd... That's just ridiculous. Not to mention the comparison you made doesn't make any sense.

[emerald1]

Well, when I was first with my bf his foreskin wasn't able to retract, so I would just suck it without pulling the skin back and then I was pulling back and holding and sucking on the head and it was really sensitive. I just thought thats what I was suppose to do just hold the skin back. He later told me to move the skin while sucking so thats what I do. Now I just play with his foreskin and will sometime stick my tongue in while moving the foreskin.

She may not know what you like. Try communicating to her. I don't think you should get a circumcision I know if my bf got a circumcision I would be kind of upset; I don't want his penis to change I like it just the way it is.

[Donovan]

Well Im like you, I also have an uncircumsised penis, but my girlfriend doesn't pull it back, she doesn't mind when she sucks it, it's almost as if she likes it like that.

[ilovebasketball]

I would guess your girlfriend thinks that is what she is supposed to do. I had a ex g/f who thought the foreskin just had to be pulled down for me to get maximum feeling. I kept trying to her it didn't not feel good and it actually hurt. She kept saying boys are supposed to be circumcised and it would feel better for me to pull it down. She was wrong, at least for me. Our relationship didn't last long because she thought she knew everything.

[Dolphus Raymond]

I had a girlfriend who did basically the same thing. There wasn't any subtext involved; she just thought that's how she was supposed to do it. But you have to ask. I mean, she's blowing you. This is someone you should be able to communicate with. Girls aren't born knowing how to get a man off. They don't have our parts to experiment with. So talk.

Any loss of sensitivity, if it exists, is going to be gradual and long-term. I wouldn't go for that in an attempt to retard ejaculation, mostly because ejaculation time doesn't have much to do with fine-touch nerve endings, as far as we know. Is this going to ruin sex? Obviously not. Will you necessarily have the same mind-blowing experience as you get with what you do now? Hard to say. A lot of that stimulation could be because it's novel, and there's no way of saying whether getting circumcised would improve or be detrimental to your experience, or make any difference at all. I think you're overestimating the difference it will make either way. But, no, circumcision is not objectively "bad" or anything -- it's up to your personal preference.

[uncutamerican]

Originally Posted by 1139

If I were to get circumcised, I would tell the doctor to only remove skin from near the base of the shaft. I want to keep all inner foreskin, the ridged band, and the frenulum. I have no problem with the possibility that my glans would dry out from being constantly exposed, I have been wearing my foreskin back for a little while now and have no problem with it.

Um, that's not how circumcision works. I mean that's some kind of entirely new and bizarre method of removing part of the skin of the penis, but it's not circumcision. Circumcision removes the foreskin. I mean I get the point that you want some skin cut off your dick, just not from where they usually cut it off. I'd like to suggest that instead of surgically altering your penis to conform to what you think your girlfriend thinks a penis should be like, you might want to accept the anatomical structure of your genitals first, then let your girlfriend deal with whatever kind of strange issues she has.

Originally Posted by 1139

It would seem that my girlfriend's want for me to get circumcised (or at least feel to her like I am) has convinced me more or less to actually do it.

Having part of your penis removed to please your girlfriend seems like a horribly pathological idea to me.

Originally Posted by 1139

So what do you think? [...] Is my girlfriend's behavior normal?

No, it's not normal. However, I'd like to suggest she probably just doesn't know what to do with a foreskin, so she holds it back. I think you're projecting this idea that she hates your foreskin. I mean maybe she doesn't know how to wank a foreskin. That would be a reasonable conclusion to draw. But I doubt her holding your skin back means she wants it cut off.

I mean I'm from upstate New York, where there aren't exactly a lot of white boys flopping around with foreskin. In my experience, even with the most naive and sheltered girls, if you move her hand up and down on it a couple times she gets the idea of how it works. In fact, I think most girls actually prefer them since they're easier to wank and suckle upon.

[teenboy9]

Originally Posted by 1139

So what do you think? Should I do it? Girls who have had uncircumcised boyfriends, how did you deal with their foreskin? Is my girlfriend's behavior normal?

You seem to be really enjoying how your girlfriend is playing with your penis right now, and thats great. But why have a surgery that makes it so thats the ONLY way she can play with your penis?
You are young. You have a life time worth of stuff that will get you sexually excited, and what your girlfriend is doing now is just one of them. Even if you dont get cut, you can still do what your doing, but if you do get cut and get bored with it there is no turning back.

Whats the point in limiting your options. You seem to be having a good time, and so is she. Whats to fix?

But I do have to say your girlfriends actions are kinda abnormal, and an example of someone who has only had experience with cut guys. I think if your interested, teach her some lessons on how most uncut guys like to be stimulated. That in itself will be a fun game you can both enjoy