Parents Just Told Me That Their Gonna Split Up

[N0RTH4M]

What was a series of arguements last night is now. A divorce. My parents told me and my other two siblings that their spliting up at the Kitchin table. I'm in a world of confusion. I was the only one who didn't cry. And the only things in my mind are who is staying with my dad and material things. If I had to stay with my dad I would die. any other pol go through this. I'm freaked.

[Justin.]

Hate to generalize, but moms typically get custody unless the parents otherwise work it out.
And it's ok that you didnt cry. It shows you are mature, and you know its for the better (you and them). I am going through this too. My parents are sticking together for my brother and I totally disagree with it. I just wanna see them happy and moving on. I am sick of the fighting and want them to do it if they want it that bad. Besides, I'll be out in a few years anyway.

[2cocoalove]

i was extremely sad when my parents told me this (i was 9) and i now see my mother 5 days a week and my dad 2

[Zeus.]

I was about 5 when my rents divorced. It was the best thing for them. My mom is a gold digger and my dad doesnt have a lot to dig from haha. I lived with my mom for a year before my dad got custody of my brother and I. I lived with him for about 7 years and then at 13, I decided that I wanted to go back and stay with my mom until I gradutated and so I did. It isn't anything I could control or do. Things just happen that way and you gotta deal with it.

[redraider]

I am very sorry that you are going through this stuff. It is going to be a roller coaster of emotions for a long time. Not all of us cry immediately, if at all. What you do is right for you.

I hope that your parents can get beyond their personal issues & remember that they have children that need love & consistency.

It will help if you have a good friend, pastor/rabbi/priest, or counselor that you can talk to, because your parents will not really be helpful to you as this process continues.

PM if you need to talk or scream at someone.

take care,
red

[juicyblonde]

I haven't been through it myself, but then again I don't live with my mom and don't know my dad. I'll give you some insight anyway.
As another said, moms typically get custody, unless they are deemed unfit parents. Remember that your parents still love you, and that the divorce may, over time, be a positive thing because there won't be as much stress and fighting. Its normal to be confused, and its normal not to cry and to worry about material things. The roots of your life are being shattered, and we all deal with things differently. And as westerners, we typically see material things as very important, so its normal to worry about that too. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but you'll be okay. Don't forget that.

[charlisangel]

I have been throught this at around 11, It wasnt honestly that bad. In fact I was exited to move in a new house. I never realy saw my parent as a couple..so it dint realy feel weird to see them split. they remain in good term and I got to see them both a bit.

It might seem bad, but it sadly happens to a lot of people nowaday. Youll get through it.