Similar feelings?

[Curious Strange]

So, I'm a gay teen that hasn't come out yet. I don't really have a problem with it, nor am I afraid with what people will think, really. It just hasn't come up..I mean why does it have to? Anyways, that's not what this thread is about.

Sometimes when I'm at school, I...I don't know how to explain it..Like, if I catch a guy looking at me, it sparks a small bit of hope that he was actually checking me out, even though he probably most definitely wasn't. Or if me and a guy lock eyes for a few seconds. My heart is longing for someone but my brain is telling me that it's not true...

Anyone else go through this?

[sean]

I have, and it's natural. It's hard especially because you don't know which guys are gay, and which are not. I think coming out might actually help you, since then maybe a guy will flirt with you and you can actually ask him out?

[Chainmefree7]

Grrrrr this happens to me multiple times a day. It gives me hope. So i dont mind hehe

[Embargo]

Yeah I am in the same situation. I do not feel the need to just tell everyone I know that I am gay, nor am I flamboyant enough(or at all) so that people will actually come up and ask me if I am so most people will not know unless I or some friends tell them.

[Emperor]

I can't say I've really felt like this. Whenever you don't come out you have to realize that there are consequences to not doing so, as there are consequences to doing so.

You are experiencing one of the consequences of neglecting to do so. When I was in high school I accepted that.

[Josh]

Originally Posted by Curious Strange

So, I'm a gay teen that hasn't come out yet. I don't really have a problem with it, nor am I afraid with what people will think, really. It just hasn't come up..I mean why does it have to? Anyways, that's not what this thread is about.

Sometimes when I'm at school, I...I don't know how to explain it..Like, if I catch a guy looking at me, it sparks a small bit of hope that he was actually checking me out, even though he probably most definitely wasn't. Or if me and a guy lock eyes for a few seconds. My heart is longing for someone but my brain is telling me that it's not true...

Anyone else go through this?

I agree that coming out will help you. Since I have come out you wouldn't believe how many people have either come out to me or flirted with me when they are drunk without actually admitting it. See you never make a move because you don't know if they are gay. Once the people who are interested know your gay they are more likely to make a move. It improved my love life around 100%.

As for it never coming up.. I don't mean to sound harsh but that is a common excuse. My friend always complains to me about the same thing "I mean why does it have to?" but deep down he just wasn't ready to come out and let me tell ya... it will never come up, ever. people arn't just going to ask ya so if your waiting for an opening it probably won't come along. If your confident that most won't care than just do it and get it over with

[failed_attempt]

Dude, I totally get you! I'm out to about three people, but no one else really knows. In addition I'm not flamboyant either. But, there is always hope that a dude could be checking you out, I'm dead serious. There was a guy at my school who I see checking me out a lot (he was pretty cute) and then later I found out that he was gay. I like this other kid who always goes way out of his way to ask me how I'm doing and make small talk with me, but when he does talk to me he always seems really nervous. I often see him looking in my direction, he laughs at just about anything I say, and when I pass him in the hallway he kinda looks at me like he's hoping for me to say something to him (I usually don't cuase I'm stupid) or he wants to say something to me... But there is still a lot of hope that this dude is interested. And until I hear about his girlfriend I'm labling him "gay-possible". And then when I hear about his girlfriend I'll lable him as "bi-possible". No one is ever 100% straight...

There is always a chance that some dude checking you out is gay, trust me! I think it's like seven out of one hundred dudes are gay and 10 out of one hundred is something other than straight (something like like that, correct me if I'm wrong)... So yeah, always keep that hope there, because so far my assumptions have never really been wrong!

If there is a dude that you like, talk to him, facebook him; basically become friends with him first then you can begin doing your homework about him and you can usually come up with facts that he MIGHT be gay; it's sort of like stalking, haha! However once you get to that point I don't know what you do... I'm learning as I go!

[muumajii23]

Happens to us ALL. Trust me. We all believe what we want to believe compared to what we know is the truth.

[Curious Strange]

Originally Posted by failed_attempt

Dude, I totally get you! I'm out to about three people, but no one else really knows. In addition I'm not flamboyant either. But, there is always hope that a dude could be checking you out, I'm dead serious. There was a guy at my school who I see checking me out a lot (he was pretty cute) and then later I found out that he was gay. I like this other kid who always goes way out of his way to ask me how I'm doing and make small talk with me, but when he does talk to me he always seems really nervous. I often see him looking in my direction, he laughs at just about anything I say, and when I pass him in the hallway he kinda looks at me like he's hoping for me to say something to him (I usually don't cuase I'm stupid) or he wants to say something to me... But there is still a lot of hope that this dude is interested. And until I hear about his girlfriend I'm labling him "gay-possible". And then when I hear about his girlfriend I'll lable him as "bi-possible". No one is ever 100% straight...!

I find it impossible that this is pretty much, word for word, my situation. Except the bold..Everything else - the people who know, I'm not flamboyant, the boy who I suspect is gay..everything. o.o

Strange indeed. It's good to know that others feel the same.