This makes me sound like a cock.

[shanghaipha]

Me and my girlfriend have been going through some rough patches recently. This is the most recent - Basicley, Weve been seeing eachother just over 3 months now.

Now, up until about a month and a half ago, we were doing sort of sexual stuff (3rd base on eachother) and now, a month and a half later, she tells me that shes not ready for that kind of stuff, after weve already done it. Now im very confused here. And i dont really know whats going on. I mean just stopping the sexual activites llike this has really made me get frustrated. I mean I'm willing to wait for her to be ready, But i dont know how long i can last. This sounds totally dickish, because i really do care about her but after having so much sexual activity its sort of getting to me that were not having it anymore.

Not sure what to do. I mean i dont want to leave her over it, but i'm sick to death of being the 'cute couple'.

I feel terrible for thinking this, and i dont know what to do. I've tried speaking to her about it all and she says is that she isnt ready.

Not sure what i can do and its really starting to get to me. Or am i just being a dick?

Help .

[ElykElyk]

hmm, youre being a dick, but in 2 ways!
Youre pressuring her to make a decision that she doesnt want to make right now, which is slowely but surely ruining your relationship, you need to

and, youre leading her on. it seems to me you dont really like her as much as you like the sexual activites you get from her. If you really cant wait, then its time to mvoe on from her and find someone who is willing to go as far as you want to go, and be not only emotionally but sexually in the relationship too.

[shanghaipha]

I do really like her, a hell of a lot. but i do love the sexual activities. I'm not pressuring her to make the desicion as when we talk about it, she does make sense, and i understand where she is coming from. It just confuses me that we used to do it and now weve stopped.

[Uncle Adam.]

This is the result of one of the dangers of having sex too early in a relationship - there is no foundation and as result it becomes purely sexual. If I remember correctly you said you loved her and that you were having other issues b/c she was hurting you and likes one of your mates, etc. So I think dealing with those issues is much, much more important than the sexual one currently, because those others are FUNDAMENTAL relationship problems and could break the relationship.

It appears to me that you don't know what you want and are just looking for sex, so why not just find someone who wants a purely physical relationship and go from there, because honestly I don't see this relationship being salvaged any time soon.

[shanghaipha]

Originally Posted by Jaju.

This is the result of one of the dangers of having sex too early in a relationship - there is no foundation and as result it becomes purely sexual. If I remember correctly you said you loved her and that you were having other issues b/c she was hurting you and likes one of your mates, etc. So I think dealing with those issues is much, much more important than the sexual one currently, because those others are FUNDAMENTAL relationship problems and could break the relationship.

It appears to me that you don't know what you want and are just looking for sex, so why not just find someone who wants a purely physical relationship and go from there, because honestly I don't see this relationship being salvaged any time soon.

I don't wanta PURELY physical relationship, but i do want some aspects of it. And yes i do love her, but theres just so much shit going on. I agree with you. This relationship doesnt look like its going to be salvaged anytime soon. *sigh*. Looks like its coming to an end =/.

[Uncle Adam.]

Originally Posted by shanghaipha

I don't wanta PURELY physical relationship, but i do want some aspects of it. And yes i do love her, but theres just so much shit going on. I agree with you. This relationship doesnt look like its going to be salvaged anytime soon. *sigh*. Looks like its coming to an end =/.

Then you need to move on if you feel that it is insalvageable, because you are leading her on and wasting both her time as well as yours.

Whether you want it or not is up to you, but the crux of the matter is that this current relationship has become physical, since it doesn't sound like there is much in the form of reciprocal love. You were going on about in another thread about all the problems you are having and even admitted that you like someone else, so wtf is the point of being in this relationship bru regardless of whether you love her still or not?

[Sole]

Hey Eddy,

The way I see it is, you are 16, that is young. 16 year old guys do a lot of thinking with their penises. That's ok, most guys do it, and this is what sort of trouble it can lead you into.

I don't think you are a dick. You haven't done anything wrong.

Your opinion of a healthy relationship is to include physical sexual contact. Hers doesn't.

That means you two are incompatible. You aren't wrong, and she isn't wrong.

Eddy, I'm sure you can begin to see it isn't right for you to try and 'persuade' her into your line of thinking. Would you appreciate it if someone tried to talk you into something you didn't want to do?

My suggestion is to break up with her. There is plenty more tail out there for you. She isn't going to be happy with you being unhappy in a relationship together so it's time to find new people

[2cocoalove]

if you really love her, you will wait