Vent

[sigh]

I don't understand how this world works..
people often tell me that you have to be talented at something or be really good looking, or be a good listener to make friends..but I'm starting to question it.
I often feel really lonely, not because I don't have any friends. I do have alot of friends, but they're all surface level friends..I don't really have anyone to talk to about my feelings and stuff :/

everytime I'm on AIM or facebook, I ALWAYS have to start a converstation otherwise noone would talk to me ..

I'm not going to make myself sound arrogant..but alot of people have told me that I'm pretty good looking or at least I dress myself well..but really if I'm good looking wouldn't there be naturally be people around me???

I wouldn't call myself 100% useless either..hell to be honest I think I have skillsets that people my age don't have (I just turned 18) For eg I know ALOT about general computer stuff..
I know some C++, experinced in php,css,xhtml web designing as well as 3d modeling and animation ANd I also do photography..

I know for a fact that alot of people are impressed by my photography works..
I would show you some of my works here but I really want to anonymous..if you really do want to see some of my works you could send me a pm and i'll link you to my website with some of my works..or my gallery..

Maybe it's my personality .I'm a nice guy and a great listener. although I cannot always give the best advices but at least I try and listen and help

anyway all I'm saying here is that..I don't understand..Why can't I make friends ??
what am I doing wrong???

[Shreyas]

You can make friends, you already have many friends(though they are surface level). Just try to get nearer to your already existing friends, hang out with them, spend time with them. As time goes they will come nearer to you. You have good skills, you can help your friends using it. Try to get more interested in them.

[sigh]

It's been well over a year..and believe me
I've tried getting close to them..but noone just seems to want me to interfere with their lives even when I'm trying to help

I really don't understand why :/

could any of you add me on msn ..?.

[Shreyas]

Originally Posted by sigh

It's been well over a year..and believe me
I've tried getting close to them..but noone just seems to want me to interfere with their lives even when I'm trying to help

I really don't understand why :/

could any of you add me on msn ..?.

Some people don't want others to talk about their problems or interfere in their life that doesn't mean that they don't want you to be around with them. Just talk with them. I never say to my friends in real life about my daily problems etc but still I am near to them.

[loganjlr]

It might be good to target one of your surface friends and maybe work on them to become better friends. I wouldn't take the AIM/MSN thing too personally either. A lot of people are either too preoccupied to talk and just have it on for the sake of it, and some people are the same as you, they'd rather have someone IM them. When it comes to finding that best friend, please be patient, best friends are in all honesty, hard to come by if you haven't grown up with the person. Some find their counterpart easier than others, but always remember, never give up the fight. Just remember if you meet a new person, friendship-making is a process. Processes are like plants. They need attention and dedication.

[sigh]

Originally Posted by loganjlr

It might be good to target one of your surface friends and maybe work on them to become better friends. I wouldn't take the AIM/MSN thing too personally either. A lot of people are either too preoccupied to talk and just have it on for the sake of it, and some people are the same as you, they'd rather have someone IM them. When it comes to finding that best friend, please be patient, best friends are in all honesty, hard to come by if you haven't grown up with the person. Some find their counterpart easier than others, but always remember, never give up the fight. Just remember if you meet a new person, friendship-making is a process. Processes are like plants. They need attention and dedication.

like I said earlier, I've been trying :/ and idk it seems like I never have anything to talk about with some of them..or they just don't care enough to want to talk to me.
most of the time their responses are rather straight forward and leaves no room for further discussion :l so alot of the time..I just kinda give up trying. what's the point of talking to them if they're not gonna talk to you?