Hurt - i stand alone

[pakaya]

my parents got divorced when i was 4. I have a half sister from my dad's previous marriage & basically she doesn't care about me. neither does my father and up to this date, he has not spoken to me or done anything for me. i live with my mom, I we used to be really close. She even rejected a couple of proposals cuz she thought stepfathers would abuse me and basically took care of me really well. We used to be really close. I'm 17 now and my mom has changed a lot. She is working and she usually takes her anger and stress out of me by blaming & cursing at me for things i don't do. i have had a couple of discussions with her about this matter & she would just say sorry and will do the same thing again after a couple of weeks. I really love my mother, She is my whole world but I feel rejected. I haven't got any REAL friends as they will either take to a joke or blab it to everyone else. I'm sort of a loner, No real friends, no grans, no gf & loved by no one....I feel like a lost loser. What should i do?

[sean]

You could try to talk to your mom again, but this time make sure to emphasize how it is making you feel, and that you know she's stressed out, but she can't just take it out on you. She might not realize how much it's hurting you. For the friends, you don't have one person, even one, that you might be able to become closer to? I'd try talking to the one you think is most reasonable, trying to become closer with them. That might help you with finding a friend to talk to.

[Shreyas]

Your mom loves you a lot, currently she is very streesed may be cause of work. Parents generally take out their anger on their kids and I think thats common as it happens with me. I know you will feel little sad but she is already stressed. You can try to make friends, you can make friends in two months by getting interested in them rather than making friends in two by letting them to get interested in you, join some social groups where you can talk about common interests and make friends.

[Terrace.Kid]

I was 3 when my parents got divorced. And my mom raising me and my sister alone. I think your mother got stressed because of hard work and lack of personal life but not because she reject you. Try to understand her and maybe talk once again later.

[pakaya]

thanks guys.....I spoke to her and things are a lot better now...Cheers

[Shadow_Girl]

Originally Posted by pakaya

my parents got divorced when i was 4. I have a half sister from my dad's previous marriage & basically she doesn't care about me. neither does my father and up to this date, he has not spoken to me or done anything for me. i live with my mom, I we used to be really close. She even rejected a couple of proposals cuz she thought stepfathers would abuse me and basically took care of me really well. We used to be really close. I'm 17 now and my mom has changed a lot. She is working and she usually takes her anger and stress out of me by blaming & cursing at me for things i don't do. i have had a couple of discussions with her about this matter & she would just say sorry and will do the same thing again after a couple of weeks. I really love my mother, She is my whole world but I feel rejected. I haven't got any REAL friends as they will either take to a joke or blab it to everyone else. I'm sort of a loner, No real friends, no grans, no gf & loved by no one....I feel like a lost loser. What should i do?

I understand how you feel. My parents dragged their divorce for 5 years. They finally went through with it 3 years ago. My parents still live together though, lots of tension. I used to love my mother and back her up, now I kinda feel how you do. You could try and talk to her again about it. I usually just let my mom vent and I actually blame myself for everything that happens =/ so I don't recommend that. Find some sort of way to build your relationship: clean up the house, offer to cook dinner, simple things. That might help.