Ugh... I wanna RE-tell my mom that I'm gay...

[failed_attempt]

So I told my mom that I was gay a while back. She ignored it; now she asks me if I'm interested in any girls. My answers are always "no". I wanna tell her that I'm gay a second time but it's just really hard... I'm tired of being in the closet and I just feel like I should start with Mom cause I already told her.

Can anyone help with ideas of how to tell her and what to prepare for...

[DoBesh]

Well if she already knows I would just tell her again in a very clear way. If she asks you if you like any girls you just say "no, because I am into boys and you know that".

[ineedateam1]

^ sit her down and talk and also ask why she is not listening to you.

Mom i want to talk with you - This is hard for me - I'm gay - Look her in the Eyes - Are you ok with that ? - Hold her hands as you tell her - And if she says No ask her why shes not ok with it? - Tell her that you are 100% sure ( You should be ) -

Or something like that

[Zomm]

Originally Posted by ineedateam1

^ sit her down and talk and also ask why she is not listening to you.

Mom i want to talk with you - This is hard for me - I'm gay - Look her in the Eyes - Are you ok with that ? - Hold her hands as you tell her - And if she says No ask her why shes not ok with it? - Tell her that you are 100% sure ( You should be ) -

Or something like that

Remember to use hand motions/illustrations also just to emphasize exactly what being gay is.

[Zwitterion]

If she won't believe you then there isn't much you can do. Tell her "I'm gay." and if she doesn't believe you then she just doesn't believe you.

[steeper]

Originally Posted by failed_attempt

So I told my mom that I was gay a while back. She ignored it; now she asks me if I'm interested in any girls. My answers are always "no". I wanna tell her that I'm gay a second time but it's just really hard... I'm tired of being in the closet and I just feel like I should start with Mom cause I already told her.

Can anyone help with ideas of how to tell her and what to prepare for...

How long ago is a "while back"? Parents often take some time to get used to the idea, and it's not uncommon for them to try to avoid thinking about it by asking if you're interested in a particular girl. If it has only been a little while (a month or so? maybe 2?) since you told her, you might consider just letting her have her time to come to terms with it herself.

If it's been longer (whatever you figure is "enough time" for your mom. I'm not going to throw down a timeframe for your family) and it's really getting to you, then next time she asks you why don't you just say "No, but there's this guy in my chemistry class that I really like" (or wherever it is that you guy like is). If you're uncomfortable with saying something like that to your mom, just say "No, mom, I don't. I've told you before that I'm gay."

She already knows you're gay, so you shouldn't worry about her reaction to it. If she didn't react the first time, when she didn't know it was coming, then she'll likely not react any more the second time you tell her, when she already knows.

[joshskates]

Originally Posted by Zomm

Remember to use hand motions/illustrations also just to emphasize exactly what being gay is.

Great idea.



on a serious note tho, to the OP, i have told my mom i was gay when i was 14, then again last year, and every here and there i referance it and she still doesn't believe me

[Natureboi]

Failed attempt? Ironic.

You threw the pitch. She dropped the ball.
She's not ready to play.
And you can't make her.
Maybe later...maybe never.
You both have to be ready, willing, and accepting in order to play. (plus you both have to understand and agree to the rules)
Maybe you need to further investigate (discretely) her opinion on the subject before you throw anything else at her that she might not be prepared to catch.