Anal- Essential to Being Gay?

B0bb33(i) · Oct-14-2009, 04:56 AM

Here's a post I came across somewhere. I know he's not the only one who feels that way as I've seen a number of other guys of all ages express the same or similar sentiments. (and evidence of what they complain about).

Quote:

15/M here Sick of other boys (esp. older) pressuring me about anal- trying to convince me that it's some kind of initiation to become part of the 'Gay commnunity'

F[---] that! Nothing but conformist bull[feces]. Where the hell is it f[---]ing written that just because I'm attracted to other boys, I've gotta either take a cock up my ass or stick mine in someone else's?!

That s[---] is just f[---]ing gross and I'm never gonna do it, and I couldn't give half a rat's ass what anyone thinks of me. If you can't love me for who I am, then you can go to hell.

I get plenty of satisfaction from just rubbing / sinking my dick into and between buttocks and other parts, against other parts of the body and having my cock caressed, stroked, rubbed, etc.

Batman · Oct-14-2009, 05:26 AM

Anal sex is not required. Problem solved.

**Luke** · Oct-14-2009, 06:23 AM

Yeah its definately not a requirement. Some like it, some don't.

**And?** · Oct-14-2009, 06:39 AM

Do what you want. Or don't do, as the case seems to be.

Also: you're allowed to swear.

SecularHumanist · Oct-14-2009, 11:49 AM

Honestly, I've heard that one too. During the year that I still lived at home after coming home my mom said to me, "You'll have to get used to guys sticking their erect penises up your butt."(yes, she actually said that.) She said this as if it were a fact. To be fair to her, I already knew that it would be something I liked.

But, no, I don't think anal sex is necessary at all. I know guys who don't do anal at all. They don't like it and stick to oral sex. That's fine.

Vision of Glint · Oct-14-2009, 12:06 PM

I know a good handful of people I've talked to about this are very uncomfortable with the thought of anal sex. They're not interested in making love like that. It doesn't seem to be all that uncommon...

Zwitterion · Oct-14-2009, 12:07 PM

It's not necessary. If you want to do it, do it. If you don't, don't.

ineedateam1 · Oct-14-2009, 12:11 PM

It's not necessary. If you want to do it, do it. If you don't, don't.

^ this ^

Also my dad seems to think the same thing.

Comrade Tickle · Oct-14-2009, 12:55 PM

I definitely would not stick around for a guy who wouldn't do anal.

bobbyredsnow · Oct-14-2009, 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sartorialist

I definitely would not stick around for a guy who wouldn't do anal.

but if you really liked him, couldnt you find some other way if he wasnt down for it?

Dudes · Oct-14-2009, 06:10 PM

Meh, I just get the urge to penetrate when I'm horny, so if I'm into a guy, it's almost impossible for me to be with him for an extended period of time without wanting to fuck him.

&What'sIt? · Oct-14-2009, 06:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by B0bb33(i)

Quote:

15/M here Sick of other boys (esp. older) pressuring me about anal- trying to convince me that it's some kind of initiation to become part of the 'Gay commnunity'

Fuck that! Nothing but conformist bullshit. Where the hell is it fucking written that just because I'm attracted to other boys, I've gotta either take a cock up my ass or stick mine in someone else's?!

That shit is just fucking gross and I'm never gonna do it, and I couldn't give half a rat's ass what anyone thinks of me. If you can't love me for who I am, then you can go to hell.

I get plenty of satisfaction from just rubbing / sinking my dick into and between buttocks and other parts, against other parts of the body and having my cock caressed, stroked, rubbed, etc.

Fixed for ya

I'm just throwin' it out there that the gay girls (OH MY GOD we exist!) don't have a dick involved, ... so.. i don't think it could be consitered "essential" in any way...

Jason S · Oct-14-2009, 06:23 PM

yeah seems alot of people think its a major part of being gay, it maybe for some. For most tho its a small part. Being loved and to identify with some1 else (the same sex) is the key, i think

damle · Oct-14-2009, 06:50 PM

Anal sex is not a requirement for being gay, or for being in a gay relationship.

Personally, I see relationships as being about love, and sex as a unique way of consummating and expressing that love physically. To be even more specific, I see the act of sex as an opportunity to please your partner in ways that (hopefully) only you do.

But if either one of you doesn't enjoy anal sex, you should be able to work out that you wouldn't want your partner to have to do anything that he finds unpleasant, particularly since there are so many ways to bring someone to a fantastic climax or be brought to a fantastic climax that don't involve anal sex, and hopefully he would feel the same way about you.

And if both of you don't like anal sex, then it goes back to the concept that it is not a requirement for gay couples by any means.

I've seen it said above once or twice that some people wouldn't want, or stay with a partner who wouldn't give them anal sex. I think that if that's how much importance they're placing on the sex act, that other parts of their relationship must be sorely lacking.

But that's just my opinion here.

Natureboi · Oct-14-2009, 09:26 PM

I don't consider it a requirement, so much as an option.

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Luke Moderator Join Date: July 25th, 2004 Location: Liverpool [UK] Age: 19 Male My Diaries: ( 1 2 )	Re: Anal- Essential to Being Gay? Yeah its definately not a requirement. Some like it, some don't. __________________ Blah Blah Blah.

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Vision of Glint (James) Member Join Date: April 9th, 2004 Location: Wisconsin-USA Male My Diary: ( 1 )	Re: Anal- Essential to Being Gay? I know a good handful of people I've talked to about this are very uncomfortable with the thought of anal sex. They're not interested in making love like that. It doesn't seem to be all that uncommon... __________________ Your Ascension is not the end, but rather a new beginning. Put right that which has gone so terribly wrong. I will be here when you return...when you have fulfilled your destiny. GovClass CONTENT WRITER

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Dudes Member Join Date: October 24th, 2005	Re: Anal- Essential to Being Gay? Meh, I just get the urge to penetrate when I'm horny, so if I'm into a guy, it's almost impossible for me to be with him for an extended period of time without wanting to fuck him. __________________ If the curtain always matched the drapes, I'd be fucking a lot of bald chicks.

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Jason S (Jason) Member Join Date: January 20th, 2004 Location: Indiana Age: 19 Male	Re: Anal- Essential to Being Gay? yeah seems alot of people think its a major part of being gay, it maybe for some. For most tho its a small part. Being loved and to identify with some1 else (the same sex) is the key, i think __________________ eStrong www.LAF.Org www.wearyellow.com (()) //\\

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damle Member Join Date: October 13th, 2007	Re: Anal- Essential to Being Gay? Anal sex is not a requirement for being gay, or for being in a gay relationship. Personally, I see relationships as being about love, and sex as a unique way of consummating and expressing that love physically. To be even more specific, I see the act of sex as an opportunity to please your partner in ways that (hopefully) only you do. But if either one of you doesn't enjoy anal sex, you should be able to work out that you wouldn't want your partner to have to do anything that he finds unpleasant, particularly since there are so many ways to bring someone to a fantastic climax or be brought to a fantastic climax that don't involve anal sex, and hopefully he would feel the same way about you. And if both of you don't like anal sex, then it goes back to the concept that it is not a requirement for gay couples by any means. I've seen it said above once or twice that some people wouldn't want, or stay with a partner who wouldn't give them anal sex. I think that if that's how much importance they're placing on the sex act, that other parts of their relationship must be sorely lacking. But that's just my opinion here. __________________ “Legal” marriage in the U.S. Is a “civil” arrangement that is granted, by a “marriage license”, by each State government. If a Priest, Pastor, Minister, or Rabbi marries you, his religious authority only marries you in the eyes of your religion, by law. It is because he is simultaneously acting as a licensed agent of the State to perform civil marriages as well (if and when he is so licensed), and gives you a “civil” marriage license, that you are legally married in the eyes of U.S. law as well. Religious people can certainly choose not to marry gay people in the eyes of their churches. But when they push their religious beliefs into the civil arena and cause equal civil rights to be denied to gay people, they are in the wrong.

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