Was I wrong...? A bit confused...

[Dan_1994]

Well... This is my first time posting here. So for the past few days in gym class, these two seniors (I'm a sophmore, and it happens that the sophmore gym class and the senior gym class have the same gym period the half.), keep comeing up to me and sticking there hands within 1ft. of my face, and saying "kiss it," now the first few times I just laughed it off and kinda made a joke out of it (it seemed they were just kinda jokeing at first, but today it kinda seemed like a half joke, half trying to intimidate me). Today, when I went down to the locker room, one of these 2 guys whose gym locker happens to be in the same little section as mine, was kinda blocking me a little bit from getting to my locker, he put his hand in my face and said "kiss it," I looked right at him, and said "you really want me to kiss it," he said "yep," then I had kinda of a half smile smirk on my face and asked again if he REALLY wanted me to kiss it, again he said yes. So I grabbed his hand like I was going to kiss it, and I spit. He took his hand away real fast so it didn't get on him to much, and he pushed me back and swore and yelled at me and threatened to hit me etc., I just kinda looked at him smiling and went and got changed. Later after gym, I got changed, and he paid no attention to me. I went to the bathroom, washed my hands, and when I was getting some paper towels to dry my hands, the bigger of the 2 came up to me (I'm 5'11" and he has maybe a foot to a foot and a half on me. He came over and put his hand in my face and said kiss it. I looked at hum, and in all calmness said, I'm not gonna kiss your hand. He said why not, and I said Cause I'm not... The other guy who was kinda half outside the doorway said, "he tried to spit on me before, tries that again and I'm gonna fucking mess his ass up". I just walked out and went to my next class. Now I'm cool with everyone I talk to at school, that's why I didn't do anything the first few times, but now it's kinda starting to piss me off a bit, it's not that I'm really scared of them, I'm just not one to like to fight, but if I ever had to, I wouldn't hesitate, but I'd never through the first punch. But all day I've been feeling bad about spitting on the kid, and what he said to me then and after class to. I don't know why, I've just felt really bad about it. If anyone actually reads this whole thing, could you tell me, was I wrong? Was I completly wrong for doing this? I feel bad about it. I'm just gonna try and avoid them tommarow and see what happens, but the more I think about what they were doing to me, the less I feel bad, and the more I get pissed off. I guess I just want your opinion on who was wrong and whatever else you can tell me. Sorry for it being so long, thanks!

[GoCanucks]

Well considering it wasn't a joke, then you were in all rights right to spit on him. It might have been kinda gross, but at least it got him to stop bothering you. I don't think you should feel bad.

[charlisangel]

Not at all, you defefended yourself without geting violent. And you ask him twice if he realy wanted..he should have known better.

[Iconic]

You feel guilty because it isn't your nature to hurt/ do things to people as you say, I guess its one of those things you just need to learn to get over you can't take it back, and I think if you had not of done it the guys would have still been giving you shit

[Troy]

Theres a guy whos 7 ft 5 at your school?

[Shreyas]

You were not wrong at all. You did what should be done at the moment and Happy Birthday

[loganjlr]

Originally Posted by Dan_1994

Well... This is my first time posting here. So for the past few days in gym class, these two seniors (I'm a sophmore, and it happens that the sophmore gym class and the senior gym class have the same gym period the half.), keep comeing up to me and sticking there hands within 1ft. of my face, and saying "kiss it," now the first few times I just laughed it off and kinda made a joke out of it (it seemed they were just kinda jokeing at first, but today it kinda seemed like a half joke, half trying to intimidate me). Today, when I went down to the locker room, one of these 2 guys whose gym locker happens to be in the same little section as mine, was kinda blocking me a little bit from getting to my locker, he put his hand in my face and said "kiss it," I looked right at him, and said "you really want me to kiss it," he said "yep," then I had kinda of a half smile smirk on my face and asked again if he REALLY wanted me to kiss it, again he said yes. So I grabbed his hand like I was going to kiss it, and I spit. He took his hand away real fast so it didn't get on him to much, and he pushed me back and swore and yelled at me and threatened to hit me etc., I just kinda looked at him smiling and went and got changed. Later after gym, I got changed, and he paid no attention to me. I went to the bathroom, washed my hands, and when I was getting some paper towels to dry my hands, the bigger of the 2 came up to me (I'm 5'11" and he has maybe a foot to a foot and a half on me. He came over and put his hand in my face and said kiss it. I looked at hum, and in all calmness said, I'm not gonna kiss your hand. He said why not, and I said Cause I'm not... The other guy who was kinda half outside the doorway said, "he tried to spit on me before, tries that again and I'm gonna fucking mess his ass up". I just walked out and went to my next class. Now I'm cool with everyone I talk to at school, that's why I didn't do anything the first few times, but now it's kinda starting to piss me off a bit, it's not that I'm really scared of them, I'm just not one to like to fight, but if I ever had to, I wouldn't hesitate, but I'd never through the first punch. But all day I've been feeling bad about spitting on the kid, and what he said to me then and after class to. I don't know why, I've just felt really bad about it. If anyone actually reads this whole thing, could you tell me, was I wrong? Was I completly wrong for doing this? I feel bad about it. I'm just gonna try and avoid them tommarow and see what happens, but the more I think about what they were doing to me, the less I feel bad, and the more I get pissed off. I guess I just want your opinion on who was wrong and whatever else you can tell me. Sorry for it being so long, thanks!

I don't think you were completely wrong, I think you just didn't know how to react. Who asks people to kiss their hands anyway? I usually don't initiate the first action like you did, but I still would be as confused as hell.

[kdee]

Originally Posted by Dan_1994

Well... This is my first time posting here. So for the past few days in gym class, these two seniors (I'm a sophmore, and it happens that the sophmore gym class and the senior gym class have the same gym period the half.), keep comeing up to me and sticking there hands within 1ft. of my face, and saying "kiss it," now the first few times I just laughed it off and kinda made a joke out of it (it seemed they were just kinda jokeing at first, but today it kinda seemed like a half joke, half trying to intimidate me). Today, when I went down to the locker room, one of these 2 guys whose gym locker happens to be in the same little section as mine, was kinda blocking me a little bit from getting to my locker, he put his hand in my face and said "kiss it," I looked right at him, and said "you really want me to kiss it," he said "yep," then I had kinda of a half smile smirk on my face and asked again if he REALLY wanted me to kiss it, again he said yes. So I grabbed his hand like I was going to kiss it, and I spit. He took his hand away real fast so it didn't get on him to much, and he pushed me back and swore and yelled at me and threatened to hit me etc., I just kinda looked at him smiling and went and got changed. Later after gym, I got changed, and he paid no attention to me. I went to the bathroom, washed my hands, and when I was getting some paper towels to dry my hands, the bigger of the 2 came up to me (I'm 5'11" and he has maybe a foot to a foot and a half on me. He came over and put his hand in my face and said kiss it. I looked at hum, and in all calmness said, I'm not gonna kiss your hand. He said why not, and I said Cause I'm not... The other guy who was kinda half outside the doorway said, "he tried to spit on me before, tries that again and I'm gonna fucking mess his ass up". I just walked out and went to my next class. Now I'm cool with everyone I talk to at school, that's why I didn't do anything the first few times, but now it's kinda starting to piss me off a bit, it's not that I'm really scared of them, I'm just not one to like to fight, but if I ever had to, I wouldn't hesitate, but I'd never through the first punch. But all day I've been feeling bad about spitting on the kid, and what he said to me then and after class to. I don't know why, I've just felt really bad about it. If anyone actually reads this whole thing, could you tell me, was I wrong? Was I completly wrong for doing this? I feel bad about it. I'm just gonna try and avoid them tommarow and see what happens, but the more I think about what they were doing to me, the less I feel bad, and the more I get pissed off. I guess I just want your opinion on who was wrong and whatever else you can tell me. Sorry for it being so long, thanks!

While I wouldn't have called you actions really all that inappropriate, you probably should have never spit in his hand in the first place. You should have just walked away without doing anything. This other guy was being a total arse, so I can't say that I entirely blame you for spitting in his hand, but since you chose to do so, you ended up making the entire situation much more complicated and longer-lasting than it really needed to be...