The big choice

[guiarama]

Hi!

I think I am in a big trouble nowadays.
I'm almost 19 yo. I'm acting gay, since I'm 17, hanging out only with boys and often having sex with them. Hanging out with girls rarely.
Nowadays, I have made so many friends on the gay environment and got some few deep relationships with gay people. When I'm in a gay environment it's really confortable.
Nevertheless, I have straight friends too, most part is woman.
Now, the point:
I'm still a little bit confused about my sexuality, I totally accept my interest on man(I have told my mom), but I feel horny with some girls too (not as much as I'm use to when it's about man). I have never had sex with woman, but I'd like to have.
The challenges are that my gay friends don't support me about having sex with a girl, and they treat sex like something that u just do, u don't have to think about that.
Like: "If you don't want to have sex with any kind of girl, then you're gay"
or "If you cannot just have sex with a whore, you are a gay"
Actually I don't think I can't do it, but I just don't think about sex this way.
They make fun of me, when I talk about it.
I'd like to know if the fact of acting gay preclude myself of acting only in a straight way in my future life?
p.s: I don't discern the meaning of Sex when it's about Woman or Man. I only have had more opportunities of love relationships with man. (ok! I allowed it to happen, and it's a easier way)

Thanks!

[byt4]

Sounds like your bi but leaning farther on the gay side. Doesn't sound like they are much of friends if they are making fun of you for being bi. If they are gay themselves then they should know better then make fun of someones sexuality.

[PullMyTriggerOK]

Listen to me, if you want to have sex with a girl, by all means DO IT. You have nothing to lose anyway. I have nothing against gay people but when they show no support for straight sex, that just makes me scorn them. If you want to have sex with a girl, do it. You might find it better then having sex with a man.

[El Badass]

Your not completly gay or straight from what it sounds like. Your also don't like girls and guys 50 /50 there is a gray area in there. To me it sounds like you are bi but lean more to gay. Don't let your friends tell you what to think you do. Do what feels right for you

[SecularHumanist]

It sounds like you are bisexual and there is nothing wrong with that.

That doesn't mean that you can choose who you love or who you are attracted to however. You can give yourself more opportunities with one gender than the other but that's no guarantee.

Just be happy with who you are and let love find you.

[Optimus Prime.]

As has been said above, you sound Bi-Sexual just going off what you have said. Straight = Interest in the Opposite Sex, Gay = Interest in the Same Sex where as Bi-Sexual is in between. If you feel as if you want to have a sexual relationship with a female then by all means go ahead, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and take necessary precautions though. You shouldn't let other peoples views and opinions control your life.

[Brad!]

well we can't exactly figure out your sexuallity. that is something that you determine yourself. To me, it sounds like you are bisexual.

[fun temptation]

So wat can we deduct from this? U like both sexs like a wonderfull creation BISEXUAL

[kdee]

Originally Posted by guiarama

Hi!

I think I am in a big trouble nowadays.
I'm almost 19 yo. I'm acting gay, since I'm 17, hanging out only with boys and often having sex with them. Hanging out with girls rarely.
Nowadays, I have made so many friends on the gay environment and got some few deep relationships with gay people. When I'm in a gay environment it's really confortable.
Nevertheless, I have straight friends too, most part is woman.
Now, the point:
I'm still a little bit confused about my sexuality, I totally accept my interest on man(I have told my mom), but I feel horny with some girls too (not as much as I'm use to when it's about man). I have never had sex with woman, but I'd like to have.
The challenges are that my gay friends don't support me about having sex with a girl, and they treat sex like something that u just do, u don't have to think about that.
Like: "If you don't want to have sex with any kind of girl, then you're gay"
or "If you cannot just have sex with a whore, you are a gay"
Actually I don't think I can't do it, but I just don't think about sex this way.
They make fun of me, when I talk about it.
I'd like to know if the fact of acting gay preclude myself of acting only in a straight way in my future life?
p.s: I don't discern the meaning of Sex when it's about Woman or Man. I only have had more opportunities of love relationships with man. (ok! I allowed it to happen, and it's a easier way)

Thanks!

Have you never heard of Bisexuality? Having said this, most of the professed-bisexual people I know really tend to lean more to one side or the other (men or women). I've really always seen bisexuality as more or less a sub-strata of homosexuality.

At the end of the day though, the people you hang around with are always going to follow some guidelines of a value system. As you might imagine, the gay community probably does not see a whole lot of their own values in people who would just as easily have sex with an opposite gender as they would with someone of their own gender....

[ScotsFury]

We can't decide your sexuality for you, but we could tell you to "just do it." I would say that if you don't feel comfortable than don't do it. Maybe you should also reevaluate who and why you consider your friends.

[Tristen19]

Just be yourself and live your life for you. If you want to experiment with girls, go for it, give it a try because if you don't, how can you be sure that you are gay and maybe, your bi? Don't let others control your life or try to persuade you to fit into their mold. Your unique, stay that way.

[Steve-UK]

From what you've said it sounds as if you are Bisexual. There is a complete continuum of sexuality from completely straight to completely gay with various degrees of bisexuality in between.

As well as someone's sexual orientation there is also the lifestyle someone leads. My suspicion is that many people who are bisexual lead a straight lifestyle in the sense of living with an opposite sex partner and probably do so because it fits better with the mainstream of society, to have children, or both.

That means that bixsexual guys whose attraction to women is strong enough to form a relationship with one are less common in gay society than people who are exclusively or mostly gay and that can mean that gay friends don't fully understand a bisexual person.

Finding who you are sexually is important and true friends will stick around whatever the outcome. The others you don't need. So, if you want sex with a woman then try it

[Dunk90]

Don't stress about it man. Youre 19 so have heaps of time to figure out your sexuality. Plus your gay friends are wrong about sex. For a lot of people, sex is about an emotional connection.

Some guys might sleep with random whores. But I think that's gross and those men are big-time losers!