I'm Very Self-Conscious About My Choice of ...

[Ramzus]

This is probably going to be a little long, but I've been in need of help with this since I was in 7th grade.

This falls in between the lines of fashion, and a bit of hormones I guess, or puberty. But, I am not just looking for advice from guys, I would like to have women input as well. So, please read the entire story, it will help with the questions.

Well, as you can see from the information on the side bar, I'm 17, and I'm a little over 6' tall. But here's the rub. I know a lot of women frown, or just dislike them, but I wear briefs. Not the full-cut kind, that ride up to your stomach; I wear low-rise briefs, that stay on you hip.

Now, I'm not overweight, I'm actually very athletically fit, and I'm working on toning my abdomen more, and I wear black jockey low-rise briefs. But, I don't judge other people the way most people do, if I judge, it is based off of personal experiences with whichever person, or is it based off their own personality. But, I feel as though I'm breaking some ethical code by wearing briefs. I know it probably sounds really stupid, but you just really don't know how much this torments me.

Women almost always bash guys for wearing briefs, but when you look at it closely, it's only when the guy isn't slim, or its just because briefs don't look good on him. Now, there is much, much more to this story, so I'll elaborate more.


I wore briefs my whole life as a young child, but when I was in 3rd grade, I switched to boxers because everyone was doing it, and I had a few instances where some girls make a remarks about by briefs. So, like I said, I switched to boxers when I was in 3rd grade.

(this is were the puberty part comes in, so if any of you are sensitive about the private area, I suggest you just stop reading)

Now, of course, it gets around the time in middle school were guys start thinking like "am I big, am I small, etc... Well, as long as I can remember, I always had troubles with boxers.

When I would get an erection, I could never hide it. So I was always wondering why I never saw any other guys having the same problems as I was. Then, I started thinking that maybe it was because I was small. I have a good memory, so I actually remember the day it happened, but I was in 7th grade, at the time I would be 14; and I got home from school. When I got home, no one was home, so I thought it would be a good idea to measure myself. So I did...

Well, I measured myself, and even though I discovered my length, I didn't really know what it meant. I didn't know if what I had was big, or if it was small. So, I just didn't think anything of it. But, a few weeks later, some rumor starting going around my school about how a guys penis is always half the size of his foot. I didn't know if it was true or not, but a lot of the bragging type of guys would say things like "Well, my shoe size is a 11." and that for a 13-14 year old is a big shoe.

But see, I had a friend who said exactly that, and back then, my foot was size was about an 8 or something like that. So, I thought, if his foot is 10, then he has a 5.5" long penis...

But I was confused. I was utterly confused. Would a 5.5" penis really be a big one? And if it was, then what does that mean about me. Because for me, the math didn't add up like that.

I hate talking about it, because mainly, I feel like I'm bragging, but more importantly, not every guy is equal (in terms of what we are talking about)

Like I said, the math didn't add up for me. So, when I got home that day, luckily no one was home again, so I measured again. And it came to the same length as before; 7.5 inches. But I was confused, I thought "how could I have an 8 size foot, but a 7.5 penis?" I was stumped.

But I didn't put two and two together until about 8th grade, mainly because I am so self conscious about myself. But, by the time I was in 9th grade, I read an article about the proper way to measure yourself.

So, then I thought.

"AHA! I knew I wasn't that big, I'm so stupid. Why would I ever think I was that big?"

Because at this time I was in 9th grade, and my penis was measuring 8.4 inches, but that was with the wrong measuring method.

So, when the chance arrived, I measured myself one more time. But this time, I was stunned even more. The way I measured it previously made my penis seem smaller than what it actually was. The measurement was reading 9.2". I'm not kidding when I say this, but I dropped the ruler, not of being stunned, but because I finally understood what was happening.

This is why I had so much trouble with boxers, I was too big for them. I actually felt normal after 6 years of constant struggle with my self consciousness. But even more then, I was having more trouble with boxers then ever before. When I would get an erection in a public place, I could not stand up, or else face reticule and humiliation. Because boxers don't hold anything, it's kind of like rapping a thin washcloth around your waist.

So, the next year, I switched to briefs, and you have no idea how hard it was to ask my mom to take me to buy briefs; because of my self consciousness. And so, since then, I've been wearing briefs; I restarted february 21 of 2008, so it has been over a year now.

But still, I'm plagued by my stupid self consciousness.

I'm deathly afraid to wear my briefs on gym days, because 1. I wear briefs and will probably be really immature and make fun of me and 2. the guys in the lockeroom will think I have an erection because the size of my penis and the briefs. But the briefs hide my erections, which is one of the reasons why I like them so much.

And I know, people say: "who cares, why would they even care about your underwear unless they're interested in you." But, I'm so self conscious about this that I can't get around it. I really don't know what to do. I hate boxer-briefs, because I don't like the pressure on my legs (it feels like you're upper legs are being wrapped in saran-wrap)

So, I need to know what you all think. This is the fashion section, so this is why I thought it was more appropriate. But like I said, I need to see if I'm taking this way out of league, but also to see if I don't have a skewed perspective on people.





(I'm going to describe myself a little more so I can get definitive answers from heterosexual girls and homosexual guys)

I'm 6'2", blue eyes, caucasian (white skin), athletic build, very long/naturally straight blonde hair, and I wear black low-rise briefs.To get a really good image, people always tell me that I am a spitting image of Jay, the actor on Clerks 2, his name is Jason Mewes.

You don't have to answer a question that you yourself are not comfortable answering, I don't want to put you on the spot like that. Just be sure to answer a few, but the more the better.


Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?


Also:
Any other advice that you could give me that will hopefully help my situation, and self-consciousness.

[And?]

Originally Posted by Ramzus

Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?

That was a fucking tome, dude xD.

1. I think it's underwear, it neither adds to, nor detracts from a person's attractiveness - especially when you take 'attractiveness' as a whole, which is largely personality, and thinly (loljokes) looks.

2. They can be fashionable, but how often do you prance around in them?

3. I have no idea. If they fit you, they fit you.

4. Your reasoning is justified.

5. Yes.

6. Yes, yes, yes. You're over-thinking this WAAAY too much. Dude, it's underwear.

7. I'm too big for the worrrrrrld .

8. No. I doubt I'd be looking.

Chillout, dude, seriously, it's nothing. You're 17, almost an adult. Time to leave childish worries behind.

[Shreyas]

Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?


Also:
Any other advice that you could give me that will hopefully help my situation, and self-consciousness.

1) Its a complete personal choice, if you like wearing them then wear them. I have read that all so I understand your self-consciousness. From my point of view I find briefs better than boxers. they even look better than boxers.

2)Yes

3) you are completely fit to wear briefs

4) everyone gets conscious about different things, for you its underwear. Just don't worry about others, wear what you like and you are comfortable wearing them.

5) YES

6)Yes

7) No

8) No, I would find it silly if someone makes fun of you just because of your underwear.

whats the use of wearing a underwear if you are not comfortable with it and its creating a problem and you don't like.

Wear what you like.

[PINCHY]

Dude, briefs look better than boxers. Let me tell you right now, if you have a good/great body in particular a great ass and legs then for god sakes get briefs.

[Marrk15]

Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?
Eh, I must say it does depend on his body type.....fat guys should stick to boxers....but since you're fit and athletic, you can stick with them in my opinion

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?
Absolutely! I wear them and like them, I love when guys where them of course they're attractive and fashionable, especially low ridin' ones.....don't get the ones that go to your belly button

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?
Definitely fit for them and possibly even attractive in them, lol everyone's taste is different

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?
Yeah i think you're too self conscious and kinda thinkin' this thing over a lil' too much....if you're 17 now then get over it lol and accept the underwear you wear....don't think about it all the time

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?
LOL sorry there's nothing to be proud of this is jus you over thinking the problem

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?
Yes to ask all these questions yes, you're so overcritical lol

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?
No

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?
No because i wear briefs and so do a lot of people I know

ALL IN ALL....JUS LET IT GO....you're fine

[ryan9912]

Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks? No I like the look of briefs on guys that look how you describe yourself

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive? Like I said I think Briefs are hot I would do not wear them but you can

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them? Yes I think that you would look amazing in them

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious? Your reason is very justified because I switched from boxers for basically the same reason

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else? Be proud because people will only tease you if they know that you feel bad about yourself

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation? I do believe so

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else? I do have a similar size problem, and there are not very many guys that I could talk to about the insecurities and I think you need one too.

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear? No I would not because I know how it feels when I was in high school people always thought I had an erection when I didn't and they didnt tease me anymore after I showed them that it didnt bother me. Plus they left me alone when I was taking a shower in the locker room and another guy came in and saw me and he turned around and yelled to the six gym classes that were changing to come into the shower and to see what I was packing. To say the least they never said anything again

And for some extra advice i didnt like the boxer briefs either so I went back to briefs then I discovered trunks and I fell in love with them and I think that you might be interested in trying them out.

[Ramzus]

Originally Posted by ryan9912

Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks? No I like the look of briefs on guys that look how you describe yourself

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive? Like I said I think Briefs are hot I would do not wear them but you can

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them? Yes I think that you would look amazing in them

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious? Your reason is very justified because I switched from boxers for basically the same reason

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else? Be proud because people will only tease you if they know that you feel bad about yourself

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation? I do believe so

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else? I do have a similar size problem, and there are not very many guys that I could talk to about the insecurities and I think you need one too.

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear? No I would not because I know how it feels when I was in high school people always thought I had an erection when I didn't and they didnt tease me anymore after I showed them that it didnt bother me. Plus they left me alone when I was taking a shower in the locker room and another guy came in and saw me and he turned around and yelled to the six gym classes that were changing to come into the shower and to see what I was packing. To say the least they never said anything again

And for some extra advice i didnt like the boxer briefs either so I went back to briefs then I discovered trunks and I fell in love with them and I think that you might be interested in trying them out.

Thanks I'll look into trunks, but I highly doubt I'd switch from briefs, but I will look into them either way.

Thanks again

[Zelda]

I don't give a shit what underwear my guy wears. I'd rather have it off of him.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by Zelda

I don't give a shit what underwear my guy wears. I'd rather have it off of him.

Fiesty.

I'm not really a fan of this thread, to be honest... I'll talk about moving it to general curiosity.

[shroomy]

Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?

Its not repulsive at all! I DO think wearing them depends on your own physique, but i also believe that if you find something more comfortable, do what you want!

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?

Yes. They are BOTH, it just depends on who. Not trying to sound really shallow here, but briefs are MADE to hold you in place. No one wants to see a guy with NOTHING wearing something that is made to hold in what you've got. Personally, i find it cute to see a guy in briefs.

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?

Based on your description, i think that you could be very attractive in briefs OR boxers. What you decide to wear underneath your clothes isn't really a deterministic factor in how attractive you are.

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?

I think its VERY well justified. Random erections are VERY embarrassing. Even if they are natural. I'd say you are just a little to self conscious. Don't be concerned what other people think of you. I KNOW this is hard. Trust me. But if they say anything about it, simply say that you don't like boxers. You don't have to get into details with why you prefer briefs.

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?

Be proud of who you are. End of story. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who wastes the person they are on worrying about what other people think.

Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?

My English teacher told me that there was no possible way for a human to be overly critical.
Its merely your opinion, and your insecurities about it. Stand by your choices.

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?

I had a very similar problem when i was younger. I grew into my size however.

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?

Honestly, it'd make me giggle a little... but i wouldn't DARE point and laugh. Nor would i share my opinions of that guy with anyone else. I'd respect his decision to wear what he WANTS to wear.

Also:
Any other advice that you could give me that will hopefully help my situation, and self-consciousness.

Man, just be yourself. Don't let the narrowminded pricks of society get to you. They suck at life and can only justify their sucking by bringing down those around them. I suggest tazing them violently.

[Ramzus]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Fiesty.

I'm not really a fan of this thread, to be honest... I'll talk about moving it to general curiosity.

If you feel that it is appropriate to move it, then please do. I only posted it in this thread because it had to do more with fashion than anything else in my opinion.

But like I said, do what you want with it, I'm just here for the answers, and help.

[Zeus.]

Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?

No. Underwear doesnt have anything to do with someones appearance

Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive? Yes.

Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?

Yes

Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?

I think you have a good reason. You want room and support and something to hide yOur erections and briefs do that well.

Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?

Yes. Absolutely. This is the most important part.
Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?

Yes

Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?

Well No, because I am not nearly as big and gifted as you say you are. So boxers work just fine for me and thats what Ive been wearing for like 10 years now so.

Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?


I could care less, I would pick on the guy making fun of you in briefs.

Originally Posted by Zelda

I don't give a shit what underwear my guy wears. I'd rather have it off of him.

Where can I find more women like you?