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    So, I'm pretty bicurious, but nobody at all knows this.
    I really feel like I should talk to someone about it, just because I don't like keeping secrets. But I feel like they would look at me different or something...
    Also, I recently found out one of my friends is bi (a guy). He hasn't told anyone except this one other friend of ours (a girl). She wasn't supposed to say anything, but accidentally let it slip to me. I was thinking I could possibly talk to him about it, but idk. I don't want him to feel confronted/offended/whatever...He's one of those masculine guys who you'd expect to be homophobic, so it's not entirely easy to bring this up to him. Should I not even mention anything about it to him?

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    Maybe you can ease into the conversation slowly, discuss something else and then bring up your bicurious topic slowly into the conversation, after you see he is relaxed. If he pretends to be no sympathetic to you, then you can tell him what that girl had said and that you can both give each other support on that matter.

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    In truth, a lot of people will look at you different... When I began to come out people really changed and I even lost friends (but gained new ones)... However there are a few intellegent people who still treat you the exact same way.

    About your friend... I don't think you should talk about it with him. You can ASK him if he's bi but I would not be like, "Yo, dude wats good? I heard from my homegirl Kathy that you was bi." Don't be like that. Because then you could possible harm his relationship with her cause she wasn't supposed to tell anyone... You don't wanna create a mess... But you can ask him about it though...
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    Talking to a friend would seem to be your best option. If you are looking for more of a stable place to keep your secrets, I wouldn't recommend talking to this girl you mentioned about it due to the fact that she may go off and tell someone else. Talking to a trusted friend that you have, guy or girl, whom you know is tolerant is the best way to go.
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    it sounds like you already know you should tread carefully with that guy. You don't want him to freak out. On the other hand, he might be happy to have someone to speak too...

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    I wouldn't reccomend talking to this guy about being gay or bisexual. He may be in denial and could easily get upset if his secret is out (just think about how you'd feel).

    As for talking to someone about yourself, a trusted friend would be best. A school therapist would be a good idea also if you have one. Just make sure not to tell the girl you mentioned who let the othe guys' secret out; obviously she can't be trusted.

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    Actually, today the topic of his sexuality sorta came up at our table in class. (just the 6 of us were part of the conversation).
    The girl who told me was basically threatening to tell his secret to people if he didn't stop kicking her (they were just joking around). He sorta kept doing it and she was like "Marrrkkkk..." (his name isn't mark, lol, so she was obviously inferring something). Could that possibly mean he used to go out with someone named Mark?

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    Quote Originally Posted by me is me! View Post
    Actually, today the topic of his sexuality sorta came up at our table in class. (just the 6 of us were part of the conversation).
    The girl who told me was basically threatening to tell his secret to people if he didn't stop kicking her (they were just joking around). He sorta kept doing it and she was like "Marrrkkkk..." (his name isn't mark, lol, so she was obviously inferring something). Could that possibly mean he used to go out with someone named Mark?
    Sounds like it. He may not have gone out with this Mark, but maybe he made out with this Mark, or something of the sort.

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