One year later....some help or advice?

[QuietThunder]

EDITED: doing better. hope this doesn't get bumped because of the edit.

[Elysium]

It's hard to say this, but I honestly think you should "forget about him" in the sense that don't keep thinking about being with him. Stick to being friends with him. Maybe in that, he'll see what he first saw in you. And if not, at least you'll have a good friend. Friends aren't all that bad, are they? And there are many more fish in the sea. You just have to go fishing!

Good luck!

[Sic]

I agree with Alex. From my point of view, it really hasn't "been a year". It's been a year since you first met, sure. But it's not like you celebrate your anniversary of having met with any of your other friends.

It sounds to me like you're holding on to memories a little bit too tightly. I think the most healthy thing to do would be to move on.

Now, if you want to/can't help yourself from talking to him on facebook/AIM, then by all means go ahead. But don't go confessing your love for a person who you haven't spoken to in 9 months. As you might imagine, that can come off a little strong.

If the urges continue to consume you (and they will), you might consider saying (in a few more weeks), "Want to hang out this weekend?" Start to bridge the gap that formed over the last year between the two of you. Don't have any agendas going in to it, though. You're not doing anything with him that's different than what you'd do with anyone else.

You're not trying to make him fall in love with you, nor are you trying to reaffirm your love for him. You're simply spending time with a person who you get along with. It's a fine line, I know. But it's pretty important that you keep it in mind.

To recap:

Priority 1: Move on

Should Priority 1 fail,

Priority 2: Stay in contact, but with no ulterior motives.

Should Priority 2 not be enough,

Priority 3: Hang out in person, but with no ulterior motives.

Should Priority 3 begin to repeat the last year,

Go back to Priority 1.

[QuietThunder]

Thanks for the responses. Just a quick note: it hasnt been 9 months since we talked. We've been talking once or twice a week for the past two months. I'm just going to try to follow my heart.

[Sic]

I'm just going to try to follow my heart.

Can't really expect you to do much else. Good luck mate.