I'm Very Self-Conscious About My Choice of ...
This is probably going to be a little long, but I've been in need of help with this since I was in 7th grade.
This falls in between the lines of fashion, and a bit of hormones I guess, or puberty. But, I am not just looking for advice from guys, I would like to have women input as well. So, please read the entire story, it will help with the questions.
Well, as you can see from the information on the side bar, I'm 17, and I'm a little over 6' tall. But here's the rub. I know a lot of women frown, or just dislike them, but I wear briefs. Not the full-cut kind, that ride up to your stomach; I wear low-rise briefs, that stay on you hip.
Now, I'm not overweight, I'm actually very athletically fit, and I'm working on toning my abdomen more, and I wear black jockey low-rise briefs. But, I don't judge other people the way most people do, if I judge, it is based off of personal experiences with whichever person, or is it based off their own personality. But, I feel as though I'm breaking some ethical code by wearing briefs. I know it probably sounds really stupid, but you just really don't know how much this torments me.
Women almost always bash guys for wearing briefs, but when you look at it closely, it's only when the guy isn't slim, or its just because briefs don't look good on him. Now, there is much, much more to this story, so I'll elaborate more.
I wore briefs my whole life as a young child, but when I was in 3rd grade, I switched to boxers because everyone was doing it, and I had a few instances where some girls make a remarks about by briefs. So, like I said, I switched to boxers when I was in 3rd grade.
(this is were the puberty part comes in, so if any of you are sensitive about the private area, I suggest you just stop reading)
Now, of course, it gets around the time in middle school were guys start thinking like "am I big, am I small, etc... Well, as long as I can remember, I always had troubles with boxers.
When I would get an erection, I could never hide it. So I was always wondering why I never saw any other guys having the same problems as I was. Then, I started thinking that maybe it was because I was small. I have a good memory, so I actually remember the day it happened, but I was in 7th grade, at the time I would be 14; and I got home from school. When I got home, no one was home, so I thought it would be a good idea to measure myself. So I did...
Well, I measured myself, and even though I discovered my length, I didn't really know what it meant. I didn't know if what I had was big, or if it was small. So, I just didn't think anything of it. But, a few weeks later, some rumor starting going around my school about how a guys penis is always half the size of his foot. I didn't know if it was true or not, but a lot of the bragging type of guys would say things like "Well, my shoe size is a 11." and that for a 13-14 year old is a big shoe.
But see, I had a friend who said exactly that, and back then, my foot was size was about an 8 or something like that. So, I thought, if his foot is 10, then he has a 5.5" long penis...
But I was confused. I was utterly confused. Would a 5.5" penis really be a big one? And if it was, then what does that mean about me. Because for me, the math didn't add up like that.
I hate talking about it, because mainly, I feel like I'm bragging, but more importantly, not every guy is equal (in terms of what we are talking about)
Like I said, the math didn't add up for me. So, when I got home that day, luckily no one was home again, so I measured again. And it came to the same length as before; 7.5 inches. But I was confused, I thought "how could I have an 8 size foot, but a 7.5 penis?" I was stumped.
But I didn't put two and two together until about 8th grade, mainly because I am so self conscious about myself. But, by the time I was in 9th grade, I read an article about the proper way to measure yourself.
So, then I thought.
"AHA! I knew I wasn't that big, I'm so stupid. Why would I ever think I was that big?"
Because at this time I was in 9th grade, and my penis was measuring 8.4 inches, but that was with the wrong measuring method.
So, when the chance arrived, I measured myself one more time. But this time, I was stunned even more. The way I measured it previously made my penis seem smaller than what it actually was. The measurement was reading 9.2". I'm not kidding when I say this, but I dropped the ruler, not of being stunned, but because I finally understood what was happening.
This is why I had so much trouble with boxers, I was too big for them. I actually felt normal after 6 years of constant struggle with my self consciousness. But even more then, I was having more trouble with boxers then ever before. When I would get an erection in a public place, I could not stand up, or else face reticule and humiliation. Because boxers don't hold anything, it's kind of like rapping a thin washcloth around your waist.
So, the next year, I switched to briefs, and you have no idea how hard it was to ask my mom to take me to buy briefs; because of my self consciousness. And so, since then, I've been wearing briefs; I restarted february 21 of 2008, so it has been over a year now.
But still, I'm plagued by my stupid self consciousness.
I'm deathly afraid to wear my briefs on gym days, because 1. I wear briefs and will probably be really immature and make fun of me and 2. the guys in the lockeroom will think I have an erection because the size of my penis and the briefs. But the briefs hide my erections, which is one of the reasons why I like them so much.
And I know, people say: "who cares, why would they even care about your underwear unless they're interested in you." But, I'm so self conscious about this that I can't get around it. I really don't know what to do. I hate boxer-briefs, because I don't like the pressure on my legs (it feels like you're upper legs are being wrapped in saran-wrap)
So, I need to know what you all think. This is the fashion section, so this is why I thought it was more appropriate. But like I said, I need to see if I'm taking this way out of league, but also to see if I don't have a skewed perspective on people.
(I'm going to describe myself a little more so I can get definitive answers from heterosexual girls and homosexual guys)
I'm 6'2", blue eyes, caucasian (white skin), athletic build, very long/naturally straight blonde hair, and I wear black low-rise briefs.To get a really good image, people always tell me that I am a spitting image of Jay, the actor on Clerks 2, his name is Jason Mewes.
You don't have to answer a question that you yourself are not comfortable answering, I don't want to put you on the spot like that. Just be sure to answer a few, but the more the better.
Questions
Do you think that a guy wearing briefs is repulsive, or do you think that it depends on the guy's physical looks?
Do you think that briefs can be very fashionable, on a guy, and/or attractive?
Based on the description I gave myself, would you think a guy like me is attractive in briefs, or at least fit for them?
Do you think that my reason for wearing briefs is justified, or that there is no reason for justification, because it is just underwear, and I'm way too self conscious?
Do you think that I should be proud of what I have, and should take pride in the choices I make because I am myself and no one else?
Am I just being over critical about this whole brief situation?
Do any of you have a similar "size" problem with boxers that I do, or any other type of underwear that requires you to wear something else?
Would you yourself make fun of a guy wearing briefs in a lockeroom, even though it is just underwear?
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Any other advice that you could give me that will hopefully help my situation, and self-consciousness.
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Re: I'm Very Self-Conscious About My Choice of ...
Originally Posted by Ramzus
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I'll look into trunks, but I highly doubt I'd switch from briefs, but I will look into them either way.
