Jealous. Extremely Jealous

[totallygay13]

I hope this is the right place to post this.

Ok so for a while now i've had this really strong almost need like feeling to date. trust me i know im only 13 but all (no seriously, Literally ALL) of my friends have had at least 2 relationships. whenever they have relationship Problems my line is always "Dude we're only 13, we shouldn't be dating yet." but i can't seem to convince myself of that being true. can somebody please explain this weid feeling to me? (just so you know im not talking aobut a sexual relationship. purely romantic.)

[cherry_boi]

dunno how to explain u feeling u need to peer pressure maybe? (tho kinda sounds like it not) idk

but ya 13 is pretty young to be in a steady relationship

relationships that at young ages r like practice for the real thing but don't think ur missing out on anything, u got plenty of time to date in years to come

i can't force urself to be in a relationship with someone, it just kinds happens naturally

[totallygay13]

like 70% of me is saying "dude 13 is way to young" but the other 30% (which sometimes turns into the 70%) says "just ask someone out, it will be great."

[cherry_boi]

maybe u shud ask someone out, i mean...it wud solve ur issue, as long as u don't get sexual with them whats the harm?

u'll find out if ur ready to date or not...

[bettybloom]

Are you hysteria? Come on, just have a dating. you will be cool. 13 is the good age for meeting opposite-sex.

[Optimus Prime.]

Let me just tell you a little story. When I was 13 I was in the exact same situation as you, a heap of guys were dating and I really wanted to be like them and enjoy spending time with my girlfriend etc. I asked out a girl who I had known for the past 6/7 years and I didn't have any feelings for her, but I just had to give into peer pressure for my own sake. I ended up losing her friendship, and we were so close it wasn't even funny, and I can hardly bring myself to talk to her even a good 5 years on from then because of how we acted back then. The worst part is, we are family friends so we constantly are meeting up.

Lesson: Go into a relationship when YOU feel ready and you find someone that YOU like. It is your relationship so why does it matter what everyone else is doing? I had to wait 16 years to enter my first relationship and I wouldn't trade it for the world, we have been together for 14 months (Longer than almost every relationship at 13/14 years old) and it has been a lot more meaningful than one at that age as well.

If you find someone that you actually like, then by all means ask her out, date her etc etc, but otherwise just enjoy your teen years and wait for that special person.

I was bagged so much for not really socialising with girls all that much, even though it was similar to most of my year level, my whole group started a betting system as to when I would meet a girl and date her. You think the odd comment is bad, when people are placing bets as to when what will happen, then you have it a little worse, trust me. When that topic comes up, just say 'I am waiting for someone to catch my eye' or 'I am looking for that special person'. Should do the trick.

[Kamehameha]

The best thing you can do right now is just wait for the special person that you like to come along. Don't rush it I was in the same situation as you all of 6th to 8th grade all my freinds were dating and in relationships they still are. An I was the guy who didn't ask any girls out and was single, still am now and I'm going to the 10th grade! I've gone on one date I think and the girl I went with I didn't even like her that much. So my advice is to just wait observe your freinds relationships see the peoblems they have so when your time comes you have a preety good idea on what is a smart thing and what's not. Hope this all helps.

[302stang]

at 13 its not bad to be social but dating at 13 is alittle early. I waited really till i was 16 because I didnt feel like having my parents dropping me off. but really its a personal preference

[hockey4life917]

I'm 13 as well and many if my friends have serious relationships (not sexual ((I don't think)) ). Don't date someone just to date (due to peer pressure), because that will totally screw up your relationship with that person (dating and friendship). If you find someone you like, ask them out. Chances are you won't stay with them for more than 2 years, but it's also good (idk if this is the word) practice for when you are older and have serious serious relationships. Of course your older relationships will be somewhat different but you get what I'm saying. Good luck and hope I helped!!

[kdee]

Ok so for a while now i've had this really strong almost need like feeling

You have just described the exact origin of 90% of the *problems* that female teenagers (and some of us guys, too) bring upon themselves.

trust me i know im only 13 but all (no seriously, Literally ALL) of my friends have had at least 2 relationships.

I highly doubt that any of them actually had a real relationship. Flirting, "Does-he-like-me-oh-I-think-he-does-he-acts-like-it", and the like simply do not count.

"Dude we're only 13, we shouldn't be dating yet." but i can't seem to convince myself of that being true.

Why not? You have thus far accurately discerned the origin, the nature, and the reality of your entire situation ---- front start to finish. And you have reached the only correct solution: You are hopelessly too young to be doing anything that resembles boyfriend/girlfriend. This is all very good.

If I told you that we were standing on the edge of a cliff, and that if you walked off of it, you would die, why would you still go ahead and do it?

Urges will come and go. You need to learn to use Sound Reasoning . You have already won half the battle, which is being able to correctly understand your situation. Winning the rest of the battle is as simple as saying: "I'm just not going to play dating, regardless of who else might be doing it."

It's really as simple as that.