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    Default The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    This is a parenting article, so not exactly aimed at us, but still an interesting read.

    It says that 9 or 10 years old is about when girls experience first being self conscious about their bodies.

    Has this been your experience?

    The Age Girls Become Self-Conscious About Their Bodies




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    January 12, 2016







    The average age that Americans first remember feeling self-conscious about their bodies is getting increasingly younger. A new Yahoo Health survey of 1,993 teens and adults ages 13-64 revealed that, on average, Americans say they first remember feeling ashamed of their bodies between 13 and 14 years old.

    But with every generation, that self-consciousness strikes at a younger age. In the survey, teens ages 13-17 reported that their first bout of body shame occurred as young as 9 or 10 years old.

    Overall, the biggest drivers of body shame are children’s classmates and the media, from television to social media. Only one in four Americans say their parents contributed to their feeling self-conscious about their bodies.

    For the majority (60 percent) of survey responders, that initial experience of body shame was because someone — most often a classmate or friend — made a comment about their physique. Other triggers included seeing a photo of themselves (30 percent), closely followed by comparing themselves to someone they know and trying on clothes (28 percent each).

    Although classmates and media depictions of beauty were the biggest influencers on body self-consciousness, for the 25 percent who said their parents contributed to their body shame, that negative parental influence had a powerful effect. Children of body shamers end up being more sensitive and receptive to shame from all other sources.

    On the positive side, despite dealing with that self-consciousness growing up, some children of body shamers come out the other side as more emotionally resilient grownups. They are twice as likely to be body-positive as adults compared with children whose parents didn’t shame them. In fact, children of body shamers are helping to drive the body-positive movement, fueled by their own experiences.

    But why are people feeling self-conscious at a much younger age? “The younger kids are getting messages earlier about how they should appear,” Robyn Silverman, author of Good Girls Don’t Get Fat: How Weight Obsession Is Messing Up Our Girls and How We Can Help Them Thrive Despite It, tells Yahoo Parenting. Silverman points out that the emphasis on looks is coming from the media, which she notes is pervasive and easily accessible to children and adolescents, along with classmates, friends, and parents. “We’ve also got sexualization happening earlier on,” she says. “Kids feel more hurried to behave [older] and wear adult fashions, and feel that their body needs to look a certain way. All those things taken together are creating a more self-conscious society.”

    So what can parents do to help promote a child’s or adolescent’s self-esteem? “Make sure your kids are media-literate,” suggests Silverman. “That means not just sitting with them and talking with them about what they’re seeing, but really being able to dissect it.” Silverman talks to her own children about how advertisers use tricks to make you want to buy what they’re selling, whether it’s a toy, clothing, or a diet. Pointing that out to kids can help them become more media-savvy.

    For older children, Silverman says you can show them “before” and “after” photos of their favorite celebrity — namely, what celebrities look like in everyday life, such as leaving the gym, compared to what they look like on the cover of a magazine or in an Instagram shot. It’s teaching adolescents to scrutinize the images they see more closely, and to understand that those images are often digitally manipulated and that makeup and lighting are used to make celebrities appear slimmer and more flawless than they are in real life. “It’s explaining to them that the girl on the cover of the magazine doesn’t even look like the girl on the cover of the magazine,” says Silverman. “It’s puling back the curtain.”

    Another crucial step is instituting a “fat talk”-free zone with your family. “Parents need to be very conscious about what they’re saying in front of their kids,” she says. Silverman recommends explaining to family and friends when they come over that your house is a safe haven and that you don’t permit “fat talk” around your children. “If your mother-in-law comes in and talks about dieting, that’s the time to pull her aside and say that the kids may be starting to get hip to this,” says Silverman. “Tell her that you want to make sure everyone leaves fat talk at the door so you can provide the best atmosphere for the children.”
    When talking about bodies in front of your children, focus on all the amazing things your body can do, rather than what it looks like, suggests Silverman. “You can say, ‘I love that my body allows me to run on the treadmill and chase after you at the park,’” she says. “‘I love that I got to walk on this beautiful trail with you. I love these legs for allowing me to do that. I have this body that allows me to swim and dance.’”
    The same goes for your children, who Silverman says are constantly listening and synthesizing what is being said around them. “Talk to them about the favorite things their body can do, such as playing soccer and getting a goal, or finally being able to do a somersault,” says Silverman. “The more we can talk about what our bodies can do, the less important the pounds are. You’re stretching your concept of what is beautiful.”
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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    I don't recall having strong feelings one way or another at 9 or 10 like the article suggests. For me, it was mostly 11 years old when I first started becoming really self conscious of my body. I was smaller than the other girls and classmates would make comments and tease me about that. Media did play a role as I got older though.

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    For me I was actually around 9-10 since I started earlier so I was putting on some weight and my cousin pointed it out and that how it started

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    Quote Originally Posted by Soccer_girl-14 View Post
    For me I was actually around 9-10 since I started earlier so I was putting on some weight and my cousin pointed it out and that how it started
    Yea, I imagine that is a common experience for many of us. All it takes is just a comment or two from a friend or family.

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    I think at some point of my life I realized I was destined to become a woman and yes, sometimes it was like: why are hers bigger than mine? or when I'm gonna look like that girl (usually an actress) and it's maybe due the way I was raised but I think all this happened when I was like 13, maybe? ... there was also a bully girl who used to call me by names and make fun of me because I'm short and "small" but that never really worried me.

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    I have never become self conscious about my body even as a late bloomer like around 13yo, but I know many girls who did around the start of puberty.

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    I use to be a tomboy when younger hang out with my brother doing boy things. As I got older around 12 or 13 things started to change as well as feeliing and appearances and how present myself. I'm more of a girly girl instead of boy wannabe and I like it that way. I try to wooo the boys now intead of being like one.
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    11 for me

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    11, but then I got comfy again around 13 around my sis and friends.

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    12 - I went to high school and all the other girls started getting boobs and I was flat as. I was still flat at 14 and had developed a huge issue that i was flat. Thankfully they grew but even now at 22 and with C cups i am still self conscious about them. I was teased a lot and no guys asked me out. tbh it was awful

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    Quote Originally Posted by mariesshh View Post
    12 - I went to high school and all the other girls started getting boobs and I was flat as. I was still flat at 14 and had developed a huge issue that i was flat. Thankfully they grew but even now at 22 and with C cups i am still self conscious about them. I was teased a lot and no guys asked me out. tbh it was awful
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    Quote Originally Posted by beccaweiser View Post
    Hugs, Marie! No one should be teased like that, and those boys should have known better just what they missed out on!
    Well to date I have had plenty of crushes on guys but never actually had a boyfriend. tbh it makes me too anxious and I wonder if it was because of that major rejection at an impressionable age. I have had a couple of GF's so I do have sexual feelings but last time a guy asked me out, 2 years ago, I was so anxious I had too many vodka shots and near passed out... -___- Keep hoping I guess

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    Default Re: The age girls become self conscious about their bodies

    I'm the oldest of my siblings and a bit stopy. Also mum taught me well on what changes to expect. Physically I'm average, so didn't see I was really that different from everyone who was different anyone - basically, I didn't give a stuff.
    I was a girl becoming a woman, and that was cool, very cool.

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    I know many girls who did around the start of puberty.

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