"So, I guess we are who we are for alot of reasons. And maybe we'll never know most of them. But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them." -Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Originally Posted by Nyarlathotep
Please don't use shampoo and rubbing alcohol on your dicks.
a lot of guys on here are in the same situation as you are, me included. only you can know for sure, it's not something we can tell you. if deep down you believe you aren't gay, then you aren't. likewise, if you think you are, then maybe you are. you will know for sure, and it's nothing to worry about. it's not like you have to tell anyone.
but a good precursor to homosexuality is wanting an emotional relationship with the same sex (it's not the only indicator, but a large one), so that's something to consider.
I was like that. I grew out of it when I was 15. It's probably to soon to tell and you're most likely attracted to it due to hormones and the fact that 'gay' is taboo. Therefore, your mind finds pleasure in the thought of sexual activity with another male. Don't worry and let what happens happen.
If you like it, then keep watching. You're 13 and being aroused by the same sex is completely normal. You might be gay, you might be straight or you might be bi but hey, that's up to you to decide. As far as if it's a bit early to know that, I think it is. Don't worry too much about it and do whatever floats your boat. It might be a phase but you might just like to get off to dudes and that's not a big deal...
Im floating in the same boat with you, if you don't want to be gay, then don't be. Simple as that. I've thought about this for a while and just realized that its your choice. You decide if your gay or not.
I think a few million people would disagree. I would agree that you can choose whether or not to ACT on your impulses but you do not get to 100% choose what those impulses are.
ok i know i may get a lot of S#!t for this but this whole thing about emotionally wanting to be with a guy or not. I know adults that have no emotional involvement with guys but have sex wit them and guys that are not emotional attache to girls but have sex. i dont hink it is only the emotional involvement thing. i mean what if you want to be emotionally involved with girls but nothing about them is attractive to you and you dont want sex with them. i just dont think it is that easy. i think there are all sorts of people some that want ot just be sexually active and not emotionally involved. so if that is the case are you gay, straight? bi? i think it depends on what you want. i like guys i am not sexually involved with anyone and dont know if i could be with a guy, but i think that is because i am still only 15 and growing up and finding out about stuff. i think labels suck. why dont we just like what he like and love who we love and that is it.