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    right so i have been masturbating to por n for about 3 years and today i lost my virginity, i found that no matter what, i just couldnt cu m, i dont cu m if i masturbate without it either please helppp!


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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Imagine porn in your head?

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Stop masturbating and viewing porn immediately.
    This is better for you, from fapping to porn for 3 years, you've become desensitized.

    Just stop fapping in general and since you lost your virginity, i'm sure more sexy-tiemz is to come.
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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Well you'll just have to train yourself to be able to cum without porn
    1. stop watching porn
    2. don't masturbate for few days
    Then when you are horny enough try masturbating and concentrate on your imagination

    You became desentitized and addicted but you can change it if you try hard enough.

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    There's no word filters here. You don't need to put spaces between "porn" and "cum"

    About your problem - you need to try to stop watching porn for a while and make it so you're not so dependent on it.
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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Look at your dick going in and out of her vagina. It's like porn but better.
    I'm not normally into girls but you are special.

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    I found it very difficult to cum when I first had sex, it was nothing to do with porn, I think it was a kind of nerves problem from feeling under pressure to perform. Although many guys worry that they will cum almost as soon as they put it in there it's not that unusual for guys to have the opposite problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick View Post
    I found it very difficult to cum when I first had sex, it was nothing to do with porn, I think it was a kind of nerves problem from feeling under pressure to perform. Although many guys worry that they will cum almost as soon as they put it in there it's not that unusual for guys to have the opposite problem.
    And yes, this is also true.
    I'm sorry I didn't read carefully first OP's post so I missed teh part about sex.
    But my advices are still the same. Stop with porn (for awhile) and also relax during sex, have more foreplay, don't feel pressure to perform. And talk to your girl about it.

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    U just think about it too much

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    nick is right about anxiety the first time you have sex. i have heard that as a common problem though i haven't asked my friends about it even though i know some are not virgins (a little too personal). i plan on saving myself for my wife so i can't tell you from experience.

    one thing that i would say though is that porn is not something you should view. i know it is all over the internet and very hard to avoid. i have a lot of friends who realize it is destructive and they are trying to stop. if you have been looking at porn for three years then you know that you are needing more and more graphic porn to get turned on. you start to get desensitized to porn and need harder core porn to turn you on. the problem is porn like the movies are not real life and your girlfriend or eventually wife cannot live up to the "movies". try your best to stop and see how many days you can go without it. if you come to the temptation (pun intended) start counting your days again. it is a difficult addition to stop. you also don't want to have visions of the actors in the porn you watched while you are being intimate with the one that you love.
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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Disconnect your Internet for a few months. Tell us how that works out for you.

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    if you come to the temptation (pun intended)
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    After viewing so much porn, you are building up immunity to situations that could turn you on, including your situation. More and more studies are coming back finding that porn, although it seems "harmless", is actually destructive in the long run. It is addictive, and alters your brain's chemical makeup to require more of it to actually satisfy your body. It wastes time. And it gives you unrealistic expectations of not only your partner, but yourself as well. Pretty soon, your fantasies and habits will spin out of control. The best way to regain your sensitivity is to quit watching porn, and get rid of your sexual encounters. It's hard, I've been through it too.
    1. Identify what turns you on
    2. Identify where and when you are tempted to relieve your sexual urges
    3. Schedule other activities during these times, if at all possible
    4. Acquire an accountability partner of the same gender
    5. (I am a Christian, so God helped me through it a lot)
    Good luck!
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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    Keep away from the pron and try not to masterbate for several days and then try. It is amazing what pent up sexual frustration will make you do.

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    Default Re: I can only c um when i have p orn, please help

    I had that problem, but I stopped watching porn for awhile and I just thought about porn I had seen and after awhile I could cum without the porn

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