Popularity

[ralph]

Popularity is always what the crowd wants. When I was "somewhat" popular, I didn't act at all like myself. If I did, I thought they wouldn't like me.

Personally, popularity should be based on how you really on, and not try to please the whole crowd. At our school if you do not wear abercrombie, you're thought less of, at least in the 7th graders perspective.

Now, I could really care less. Yes they will always talk shit one way or the other, but hey you always can't be friends with everyone.

[baller]

Do you mean popular, or prep?


Coz I think lots of popular people are nice.

It's the preps I don't like.

[TMacBaby]

Yeah popular people are often nice. How can they be popular if they aren't, people won't like them. Preps are sometimes snobby. Actually most at my school are, but I'm not goint to generalise and say they all are so yeah.

[ExplodingHearts]

Originally posted by TMacBaby
Yeah popular people are often nice. How can they be popular if they aren't, people won't like them. Preps are sometimes snobby. Actually most at my school are, but I'm not goint to generalise and say they all are so yeah.

actually, i have found that the "popular kids" tend to be quite mean. although, there are a few that stick out, and are different than the normal. but i guess kids find comfort in their insecurties, thus making fun of other kids.

through my horrid high school years, i have came to the conclusion that the truly nice kids, and the ones i have the best time with, are the really dorky ones. some of them are the nicest, funniest, smartest kids i've ever met. and the popular kids aren't really like that. they have to put on some dumbass front, and hide their emotions. like a piece of plastic or something.

but i think it's dumb to label someone as "popular" just because they have a lot of friends at school, or everyone knows who they are. for example, i'm probably one of the least popular kids at school, and always have been. but in the "scene" i have to say that most the kids know me. they know my name, they notice me at shows, they know my boyfriend. but does that make me "popular"? i really don't know. it's just dumb having to put a label on everything and everyone.

[Anakalia]

Labels suck

I dont see it as much in my school, you just know who the popular people are but they don't look down on others at my school..everyone actually gets along..maybe alot has to do with the dress code, the whole uniform..white shirts black pants..so you get to know people for who they are and not what they are wearing

[ralph]

I think uniforms would help solve the problem a little bit, but no way on hell am I going to wear a uniform to school everyday. Espcially if it's a skirt...

[ExplodingHearts]

Originally posted by s4ra
I think uniforms would help solve the problem a little bit, but no way on hell am I going to wear a uniform to school everyday. Espcially if it's a skirt...

you wouldn't last a day in catholic school.

...i sure as hell didn't.

actually, i lasted about a month. i started in 9th grade, and was kicked out by october because i didn't follow rules, i mutilated the holes in my ears, my shirt was never tucked in, i never wore stockings.

...that's a real lady for you.

[Tammie]

Personally, I think popularity shouldnt even me in the dictionary. It doesn't mean what it's meant to mean. It makes people act differently, and feel out-of-place. :( I used 2 be "popular" but then i realized i only liked it because i was 1 of the cool people, not what i normally am..although im not popular now, im glad im myself :)

[ralph]

I know.

There are so many "different" saying for the definition of popularity.

[LeperAffinity]

The popular kids from my middle school which i just graduated from were the preps, "gang bangers", and the burn-outs(the ones who smoke weed and shit)..there basically all associated with each other, espeically the "gang bangers" and the burn outs.. then came the "dark" people..the freakers, and goths. then the punkers..then the ones who are right in the middle, who dont really have a name..alot of people know who they are, but the person doesnt have as many friends as the people listed above. Then come the dorks. SOme of them have more friends then the no-labelers. Thats basically how it was this year at my school.

Where would I put my self? Definately the no label scene. If I made the extra step of putting on eye-liner, and painting my nails black, I would have been part of the freaker scene. I like my self how I am right now though, im not about to put on makeup so I can have more friends..i actually like haviung few friends. It gives me more time to do what I WANT, not what they want. I dont get many phone calls(havent had a phone call from a friend in god knows how long), barely ever being dragged out to some place I dont want to go just to make that person happy. Id much rather stay home, sleep, play on the 'net, write my short stories/poems/screenplays, and spend time in the bathroom jerkin the gherkin..haha..its alot more funner then being dragged out, or spending 2 hours having a piece of plastic stuck to your ear, just listening and barely saying anything

[ralph]

It's also good not to be labeled as something.

[RWD]

Originally posted by s4ra
... hey you always can't be friends with everyone.
I think that's the wisest part of your post.
No matter what you do you will never please everyone or be liked by everyone. So you might as well be yourself. Some people will like you, some won't but at least those who like you will like the real you and not some artificial image you're trying to live up with.
I think certain forms of popularity are like straightjackets in that you're required to fit into an image or mold (like wearing A&F or whatever is in fashion at the moment.) If you're one of those people you're probably constantly worrying that if one day you wear aqua instead of teal (whatever the hell teal is, all I know is that it's some color) your so-called friends might dump you.
If you're not part of the fashionably-dressed crowd, then whoever is your friend will still be your firend even if one day you pick some random clothes out of your closet.
I'm one of those people who don't stick out. No A&F, no punk/goth etc. But even though I don't own even one black shirt I have had and do have a punk/goth friend. It happened because even though neither one of us would be caught dead dressing like the other person, we looked beyond surface appearances at what the other person is really like on the inside.

[TATE]

sara what school do u go to cus at my shool last year you had to wear abercrombie or you really werent cool.

[Calladen]

Why are two month old+ threads being revisited?

As for the discussion, act how you want, find a group you fit in, that's popularity. I don't give people labels like "Preps" or "Jocks" or "Geeks", they're just people.

[Spectre]

At my school, we have a bunch of little cliques but not really an "In crowd". But we have mostly jocks and nerds... except people like me who play sports and are in full I.B who walk both sides.

[Dustin]

All high school really is is a popularity race

[Epid3mic]

Originally posted by hYdRoChLoRiC
i actually like haviung few friends. It gives me more time to do what I WANT, not what they want. I dont get many phone calls(havent had a phone call from a friend in god knows how long), barely ever being dragged out to some place I dont want to go just to make that person happy. Id much rather stay home, sleep, play on the 'net, write my short stories/poems/screenplays, and spend time in the bathroom jerkin the gherkin..haha..its alot more funner then being dragged out, or spending 2 hours having a piece of plastic stuck to your ear, just listening and barely saying anything

Amen. Some of the best conversations I've had were with people online who I've only talked to that one time, rather than someone I see IRL everyday.

[me]

i think the best way to get over the whole popularity thing is to think of every person you see as an individual and not as part of their clique. at the beginning of high school i fell into "hating" the popular girls. then in one of my classes i met one of the girls i thought that i hated. and i talked to her one on one (in class and outside of school) and i started to see her for more than the clothes she wore. there were things i liked about her( how she didn't let what people thought of her bother her, and how she wore expensive clothes to school, but on the weekends she wore crappy jeans and went camping with me) and there were things i didn't like about her(how she talked about people, and overused alcohol and drugs). but she was a person, and not a lot different than people i was friends with.

there may still be cliques in your high schools, and you don't have to break them down outwardly (and make everyone love each other). but your can break some of them down inwardly. and whoever said that you can't be friends with everyone is right. but if its possible, getting to know people (whether you choose to like them or not) is a good idea, often times you'll find that they're a lot more likeable then you thought on first impression. try it.

[Halcyon]

My friends and I are anti-anti-anti conformist conformists. And we're nerdy (well, I'm dramatic, too).

[Savage]

Im never popular fdor sum reason it doesn't bother. me Id rather have 1 good friend than 10 crummy matesanyday.

[ROFLCopter]

im extremely poppular about 1000 kids have atleast heard my name from some stupid thing i did or something out of a school of 3500 highschool kids people come up to me that i dont even know i get freaked out by it lol

[XXI]

yep, i agree thats why i dont care if im popular or notbut ijust want to have a small circle of friends that i hang out with

[Latias-sama]

I have own little circle of friends, and they're the best mates I could wish for. 'Cept for the perverted one, but he makes things even more different...

If popularity means being well know throughout the school, then, hell yeah, I'm popular. But if it means wearing the best in-crowd clothes, having 100 crappy friends, and patronizing other people openly, then I'd be at the waaay bottom.

Popularity to me means nothing... I am who I am, and for everyone who doesn't like it can go screw themselves.

[Spectre]

Yeah, I kind of have that disorder where you need to be the center of attention... what's it called? Being a younger brother? Gotcha.

I have this belief that everyone should know me just upon hearing my name... whether it's a good thing or a bad thing... but I work hard to make sure I'm well-known for good stuff.

[Starseed]

Originally posted by Spectre
Yeah, I kind of have that disorder where you need to be the center of attention... what's it called? Being a younger brother? Gotcha.

I have this belief that everyone should know me just upon hearing my name... whether it's a good thing or a bad thing... but I work hard to make sure I'm well-known for good stuff.
Lol, I have that exact same thing...Always gotta get the good compliments and stuff, always care if someone dosen't like me, need to know why. But it's ok, it works out well. I was a popular last year in grade 9, but now I just kind of hang around with them. Too busy to really care, but last year was fun, nonetheless.:cool:

[m!n1]

Originally posted by r0xy
Do you mean popular, or prep?


Coz I think lots of popular people are nice.

It's the preps I don't like.

im pretty prepy and im popular. to many damn skateboarding kids on this website
it doesnt matter if ur popular as long as ur happy. say what u want im insecure or whatever but i just like being with a lot of people. if u feel fine about urself doing ur own thing in ur group then ups 2.

[Ub3r-Syn7h1337]

Lablels, eh, I hate labels, they get us know were!

[affinity]

You don't have to follow fashion and trends to be popular. Once you stand yourself up as confident with yourself, people will like you.

[ralph]

Originally posted by affinity
You don't have to follow fashion and trends to be popular. Once you stand yourself up as confident with yourself, people will like you.

I agree completely.

[Lucia <3]

I think popularity is bogus.. I used to be friends with the so called "popular" people.. when they decided that they didnt like me out of nowhere for some reason i became friends with other people.. and EVERYONE talk shit about them because they are to scared to say it to their face.. the popular girls where i go to school are a bunch a sluts who (and this is a true story) go to the movies for three hours to sit their in the lobby and wait for guys.. who wants to be friends with that??

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[Rhapsody]

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