I never thought i would have to ask this.

[si222]

I truely never thought i would need advice for relationships with friends, however i some how find myslef here. I have been great friends with this self-centered, snobby etc girl for 4 years nearly, (i'm male) and i believe i have grown out of her. i honestly don't like her anymore.:horse:anyway i need advice on how to drop her as a friend, she won't take it lightly but i seriously ain't bothered. We both have other friends, so its not as though i'm just billiying her. Anyway how do ur drop her?

thx, (sorry bout my random horse)

[Punjabi Kudi]

Well, I don't think you can just 'drop' a friend with a snap of fingers. If you don't like her as a friend, just start to distance yourself, and after a while the friendship won't be there. But, at the same time, is it worth a 4 year friendship to go down the drain? Although I will agree people change.

[Braxton]

Punjabi Kudi is right, and gradually distancing yourself from this person is best instead of doing something drastic. Basically, don't call her anymore and ask her if she wants to go out, but definitely return her calls if she contacts you. If she is a very self-centered person, then chances are that she will not contact you at first. Even when you hang out with her try to keep your time with her to a minimum, and you can come up with excuses that you are busy with something else if she should call you.

The fact remains that as folks get older they get different interests and their choices in friends evolve. You should not be rude to this girl, but gradually distancing yourself is the best approach so that she will not feel bad and so that you will not part on bad terms.

[Persona]

Man, learn from my mistakes. "Dropping" a friend leads only to drama.


Phase out gradually is the only option. Gradually stop talking to her, and leaning on her. Don't do it too consciously, but rather intentionally put your focus on other friends. I think that the rest will follow.

[Optimus Prime.]

As the others have said, just gradually stop talking to her, it might take a few months, but you can get there. Though a 4 year relationship, you two would be fairly close, though you do have your differences. I would still stay in contact, even if you arnt best of friends.

[Dc_lover_2010]

I truely never thought i would need advice for relationships with friends, however i some how find myslef here. I have been great friends with this self-centered, snobby etc girl for 4 years nearly, (i'm male) and i believe i have grown out of her. i honestly don't like her anymore.:horse:anyway i need advice on how to drop her as a friend, she won't take it lightly but i seriously ain't bothered. We both have other friends, so its not as though i'm just billiying her. Anyway how do ur drop her?

thx, (sorry bout my random horse)

Since you say you both have different friends,all you have to do is go hang with the others and evetually she'll get a clue.That's what I did to my friends and that worked

[hehe]

You can't just dump a friend. Well, you can, but it's generally considered rude and you'll look like the bad one.

People change, and friends grow apart. The best thing for you to do, although it's been said before, is to simply start to distance yourself from this friend. You don't have to go to every activity she asks you to go to or hang out as much. At the same time, it's probably not worth throwing your friendship down the drain. You consider this person a great friend, so even if you can't remain "great friends", why not something else? There are many different levels of friendship, and it's likely that there's a level that can work for both of you. That may mean friends that still hang out every once in awhile or friends bonded by a common past, or something entirely different.

[Nere Maitea]

as everyone else has pointed out, 'dropping' a friend isn't easy. and their help about not talking as much will gradually lessen the blow..
i mean she might get the hint if you just don't talk much.