oh it's complicated

[whatsmyname]

hi, i need some advice. i've been trying to square my life away, and part of that was seperating myself from things of temptation including the internet lol. i started going out with this wonderful girl about three months ago, a good friend of mine, and we've had nothing but fun together, it has been the best three months of my life.

we started to become sexually active about a month or so ago and last weekend we started talking about trying something new. the idea came up for maybe a three-way. neither of us cared really if it were a guy or a girl, we just wanted to have some fun, so i gave in to looking for a guy. i pitched the idea to a good friend of mine, ashton, who didn't have much luck with relationships, he's kind of a nerd and not really social but the cutest guy you'd meet, well he agreed to atleast coming over and giving it a try. no promises.

well we had a couple drinks (yeah yeah i know...we're kinda young), but not much...just enough to loosen us up and help us get more comfortable with the idea. well before you knew it we were going at it. it went from us all three going at it to each of us watching the other two going at it...it was a blast. well we crashed on the bed, my girlfriend to the right of me and aston to my left. she fell asleep but we kept talking. and within minutes we were holding hands and making out. i woke up the next morning cuddling with him and her spooning from behind...

we've talked here and there (ashton and me) but said nothing to my girlfriend. we don't know what to do. there's something there but i don't know how to go about dealing with it. i want to be with jess but ashton has never seemed happier. it's just so complicated and i don't know what to do.

sorry...
but thanks

[tomwashere2004]

What are you asking?

I think you should just end it there, just say you were trying things out,

You don't want to hurt your relationship with the girl, nor screw things up at school

[dejrfan821]

I'd tell him that you are just his friend and you have a girlfriend, you'd rather be with her than anyone else and leave it at that.

[kt8]

Do you feel anything towards this ashton? sexual or otherwise? If so, you're not being fair on your girlfriend, and pretty soon she's going to catch on that something isn't right. However if you feel nothing for this ashton, except sorry for him, then you need to be honest with him. He seems to have got the impression that you are interested in him, and if you don't tell him otherwise, you're basically leading him on, and thats unfair.

Having a threesome is a risky business, and can lead to all sorts of problems and mixed emotions.
The next step is to think about what you really want. And then act accordingly and speak to either your girlfriend or your friend.

[kylerox]

interesting... your girlfriend seems to be ok with it seeing as she watched uguys fuck... i would just go with the flow then

[HillBillyDeluxe]

I could be totally wrong but its sound like you had some sexual fun with ashton because its something new and different but the person that you love and makes you happy is jess, you have to make your own decision but i wouldnt let a sexual thrill with him ruin your relationship with her

[Action Man]

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That's ridiculous.

[Action Woman]

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That's ridiculous.

Um. I have to agree.

[Split2Decision]

Umm, odd. And when a girl moves on, she moves on. That 3some obviously granted a new connection and could be perminent if you dont stop it.