should i end it?

[k-town_chick]

k i have a big problem, i made out with someone else. totally sober just in the moment kinda thing most likely would have ended up having sex but my family was home. but i have a bf, i love him but i'm getting fed up with him, he never comes to see me, or hardly calls me its pretty well a one sided relationship. i do and i don't want to end it and i'm not sure if i should. he says he loves me but if he really did love me he would coem see me, i was sick for 2 weeks and he didn't really seem to care. i'm so confuse, i've also liked the guy i made out with for about 4 years off and on. so it makes it even harder.

[Christian]

Unless you have a wedding or engagement ring on your finger, you aren't pledged to any one person. You're free to play the field and perhaps get to know other people...until you find someone with whom you for SURE feel comfortable.

Until you have done that, I'd recommend leaving the "making out" out of the picture. That just gets hormones involved and confuses things...by doing things like making you forget one guy when you are in the arms of another, and making you forget during a few minutes' pleasure just how shabbily guy #1 treated you during those two weeks of illness.

You might not have to "end" things...like I said, without those rings there's nothing to "end." But I think you need to take a chance on meeting some people who will prove to be something of more value to you than simply a "making out partner."

[Punk Rock Princess]

well do you have a chance for a relationship with "makeout boy"? because if you don't, then there's no point in ending it with "boyfriend". unless if boyfriend will break up with you anyways for making out with this other kid. . .i dunno. i'm confused. but either way, you should tell your boyfriend.

[BigNBuff]

Originally posted by Punk Rock Princess
well do you have a chance for a relationship with "makeout boy"? because if you don't, then there's no point in ending it with "boyfriend". unless if boyfriend will break up with you anyways for making out with this other kid. . .i dunno. i'm confused. but either way, you should tell your boyfriend.

if she made out with antoher guy...then she DOESNT have that high an intrest level for her boyfirned. its not in the moment thing, those dont exsist. its a "i like you and id like you up me" moment thing. Dump your boyfriend, he obviously doesnt have that great feelings for you (im sorry to put it so blankly, but tehres not any other way to say it)..and the same goes for you. Your better off with the other guy, or searching then in a relationship to that extreme level of not seeing each other..not really talking at all..and especially cheating.

dump him..dont make it a one sided dump...make it a mutual dump, because you both led into it. A) Itll be easier to get over that way, knowing no one dumepd so and so, or so and so got dumped and B) its neither of ur faults, ur just breaking apart.

Again, sorry to put it so blankly.

[Lysander]

Talk to your current Boyfriend and see why he hasn't been seeing you. Maybe he has a perfectly rational explanation for it. Try and work it out, you will get many many obstacles in your relationship/s, so to end one because of one bad spot is a bit over the top. I do feel for you, but try and see what happens. As for the other Guy, does he feel the same way? Make sure he wasn't just using you, because there was no-one else there, like a one night stand. Tell your boyfriend that you went with this Guy after you have talked, or before possible, it's up to you, but don't announce it in the middle of the "talk" or he may loose all trust in you. Just explain to him that he wasn't seeing you enough and you felt you needed someone to love you, which I am guessing is why you went with this other Guy. He should see sense if he really loves you. If not, try it with the other Guy, as Christian said, your not binded to your boyfriend, even if you were Married.